alexptrans wrote:
Do you also find it easier to make eye contact with members of the opposite sex, though?
not easier exactly but less confusing in that if i get a "startled" feeling i could attribute it to some kind of attraction, but really that's all the more reason to avoid it. i don't know if that makes sense.
i either get nothing out of it (just visual: eyeball) or i get a mild fight-or-flight reflex which i have the tendency to read into (inaccurately, more than likely). i might perceive it in a way as a sexual challenge. i wouldn't say it's ever easy, or informative. in an effort to accommodate other people, i do actually try, but find myself looking at parts of their face or just settling on their mouths almost immediately.
the last guy i dated was a possible aspie, and we rarely looked at each other at all, let alone made eye contact. he asked me a few times what my eye color was (when i was sitting right next to him). i did look him square in the eyes for a good ten seconds or so one of the first times we went out - i was trying to figure out whether it was ok to kiss him.. it gave me no clues either way but was comfortable in that context. (?)
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