NT reaction vs. Your reaction

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Here, you post an incident where you reacted differently from a neurotypical and don't understand the NT's response.

My example:

My friend got her hair straightened.

My reaction: Oh, you straightened your hair.
NT reaction: *screams, runs, and hugs* OH MY GOD, (person's name), YOU LOOK SO PRETTY! COME SEE HER HAIR!

My reaction would be: Hi. *completely unaware of straightened hair*

if I had to spend any amount of time around the person who gave the NT reaction to the straightened hair I'd end up in prison - just reading what they said made me shudder!

When people go insane over a baby in the vicinity and fight to hold them while I just kind of stare at them as if they've lost it

Yeah, I don't get the big deal about hair styles either lol

Dinner plans get moved back by two hours:

NT reaction: "Ok, cool"

My reaction: "Burst into tears and start rocking"

Boss yells at me, basically having a temper tantrum, because I informed him that some customers complained about the air conditioner being broken and left the store without buying what they came for.

NT: Didn't tell boss about the customers having left because they could tell he was already upset. If they did tell him and he yelled at them, they apologize for upsetting him, even though they did nothing wrong, because they want to keep their job.
Me: Explain to the boss that I don't appreciate him yelling at me; I was just telling him about it because I thought he would want to know why some customers, who may have been either angry or just dissatisfied, left the store. He yells some more saying he doesn't appreciate me or anyone else in the store who've been "bothering" him about the heat all day, apparently, by making passing comments about it. I yell back and tell him I quit because he's been so disrespectful lately, and it's not the employees that are the problem. I can no longer put the job on my resume, and now I may have to lie about it if it ever comes up--which is not easy for me to do and will just add to the stress of the interviewing process. Wonderful.
NT: Tells me when I come to pick up my paycheck that I was in the right but does not speak up to boss.

I don't understand other mens' obsessions with breasts. Or sex in general.
I've had it, and I still don't get why most guys seem to be obsessed with it.

With the new hair style,

Maybe be open to appreciate that it makes for a flowing, brimming day for them. And being open in a quiet way.

without feeling the need to pretend a reaction.

Parents request that I order pizza;
NT reaction: 'K. *picks up phone and orders pizza*
My reaction: Oh! I hear that Domino's has this feature where you can order online...*spends the next ten minutes creating the PERFECT pizza, occasionally stopping to ask for parental input*.
While waiting for pizza to arrive;
NT reaction: ??? (I suppose...watch television...or something?)
My reaction: *goes on website to look for nutritional information; reads through list of ingredients about various toppings* *whispers: "I am so sorry for what I've done to you, my beloved parents"*
The pizza delivery service calls and informs us that the pizza is on the way;
NT reaction: 'K.
My reaction: *paces around the living room nervously, rocking back and forth an lightly banging fist repeatedly against door frame*
Pizza has arrived;
NT reaction: Oh, cool--pizza. *pays for pizza* *retrieves pizza*
My reaction: *shaking* He's here! He's here! What do I do? *paces even more rapidly* *jumps a bit when the doorbell rings* H-hello...*pays for pizza* *trembles nervously while walking to place pizza down*

I have a lot of girly, emotional friends. I don't understand why we have to make a big production of hugging each other and cooing every time we meet up and every time we depart. I'll hug my friends but it feels weird and forced. It's not that I don't like them but I just hate hugging people.

I have trouble with that, too. Where I kind of 'have to' tell a lie through no fault of my own. I guess a light deflecting statement and the less said the better.

So, this clown was the actual owner of the business. You'd think he would actually want to know that he was losing customers and why. What a first-rate jerk.

If someone I knew changed their hairstyle too much I probably wouldn't even recognize them...