I am gay too

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Ok so along with being a Aspie and unable to form relationships I am also a fag homo.

Being socially awkward I have never followed this up.

However all my porn is gay porn.

So I am in a minority of a minority great.


Please tell me I am not alone here?

no, you are not alone, not by a long shot. there is a LGBT forum here on wrong planet, you might give 'em a visit.

I should think that the presence of an active LGBT subforum on this site would serve as an indicator that you are not the only "fag homo" here.

<--- As bent at an umbrella's handle.

Thanks to all 3 of you.

I really do have rigid thinking it never occurred to me there would be a gay section on this site.

Edit I am off to have a look.

I'm a fag homo with AS too. Being socially awkward wasn't enough for me, I needed the extra challenge

I'm a fag homo, too. I thought that that was what was causing my social isolation, but now I realize that it had nothing to do with it.

Yes same here.

Asexual, and an LGBT ally. Even those of us who aren't actually gay tend to have experience with bigotry due to our disabilities... and that means we know exactly how ugly it is and how very little we want it to happen to anyone else. It's not exactly the same experience, but it's enough to understand the nastiness of it and be very much against it.

Lezzie and aspie.

Aren't Aspies disproportionately likely to be gay- or rather, not straight? Whenever polls of sexuality are done on here, hetro comes well below the 90% you'd expect from polls of the whole of society.

I haven't seen any official research, and the WP subjects are of course self-selected like with all polls... but I wouldn't be surprised if this is true.

My own theory is that, since human sexuality is a spectrum and not a set of neat little categories, there are a wide range of possible sexual orientations (cf. the Kinsey scale). However, as they grow, people learn about themselves and sexuality from the culture around them, and our culture uses categories and sees heterosexual as the norm. (This is not necessarily a matter of bias; for example, by default, you are assumed to be straight unless you send signals or identify as something different.) As a result, people are subtly pushed toward hetereosexual, cisgender from their very earliest days, and only those who are strongly transgender or non-heterosexual will still identify that way by adulthood. People on the border between straight and bi will identify as straight more often, depending on how much their culture takes heterosexual as the norm.

Autistic people on the border between bi and gay, or straight and bi, are as likely to go one way or the other. We don't absorb the culture around us nearly as strongly. Similarly, we're more likely to be transgendered--most trans autistic people would have been trans even if they weren't autistic, but a few on the border weren't pushed into their birth-assigned gender as strongly as they would have been if they were neurotypical.

So it could be that among autistics, with the influence of culture much attenuated, we will eventually fall into a sexual and gender category determined mostly by our genes and hormones--even more so than among neurotypicals.

I predict that as atypical gender and sexuality become more accepted, neurotypicals will approach autistics in terms of the number of people who identify as a sexuality/gender minority.

Disclaimer: Unproven theory. Needs research.

(Thread moved from Autism discussion to LGBT)

Another "fag-homo-you-mean-my-social-isolation-isn't-cos-I'm-gay?!?" here.

We're here.
We're queer.
There are 53,644,737,765,488,792,839,237,440,000 possible deals in bridge.

lol, me too.

and one of my closest friends, too, although he's still in denial.. about being an aspie. (pretty new info, i think he'll come around to it better in time.) he's very very ok with being as gay as he is, though. in fact, he's about the most OK with it of anyone i've ever met. to quote him, "I'm gay. So what?" concise, but it sure is a free way to live one's life vs. self imposed stress & anxiety based on the assumption that anyone else even cares, let alone judges negatively, who it is you're attracted to or what you do in private.

I, too, am a fag homo.