Family members issues

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If a family member treat each other bad how in the world can that mean family member have tons of friends? If I knew a friend was mistreating their family member good bye to that friendship. If bullies are mean who wants to associate with them? Questions that I can't figure out. Anyone ever had a family member (brother, sister, parent, grandparent, aunt, uncle cousin) all them names due to your autism, or other disabilities? Or look down you because you aren't 100% white? Mom is Korean, and dad is white. I know that there is racial discrimination no matter what country. Perhaps dad's family look down me because I'm half Korean AND have aspergers and LD. Also if you are unmarried, and have no children do any of your family members look down you? How do you handle family get togethers? Do you stay in corner and not talk? Do you mingle with your family? Do you stay home alone especially around holidays like Easter, 4th of July, Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years?

I don't understand either, what motivates people to be cruel, and put others down. Maybe it makes them feel superior, and better about themselves?

I'm sorry that your family treats you that way, that really sucks. I would avoid holiday get-togethers with them if possible (and in fact I do with my own family, and they're not mean to me at all!)

I've never really been a "family" person. To me, there's a difference between relatives and family. I can be related to someone and not consider them family, but consider close friends family.

I used to have a very close relationship with my mother, but she had a bad car accident a couple years ago, lost her job, got hooked on somas, and developed Bipolar Disorder. Now she's nearly intolerable. She was in a bad place when I was planning to move out of state to Oregon. The somas were causing her to have seizures, and she doesn't make any attempt to be healthy or see a doctor for anything. Those last few months before leaving were so extremely stressful. So glad I was able to get away from all that.

As far as socialising with relatives, I always found a place by myself during gatherings or holiday parties. Someone would always pester me about sitting alone, trying to get me to talk to everyone. Talk about what? Most of these people don't really care about your life. They're just fishing for gossip material most of the time. I don't think they'd want to talk about the stuff I enjoy, anyway. Social obligations are so irritating.