I was wondering if you guys have to "work" in friendships, and the person your friends with has to "work" too. I recently had a falling out with a friend and one of the things he said, "hes never had to work this hard in a friendship before". For most people, friendships just exist. For me, I've always had to "work" to some extent, majority of the time. So I talked to another friend and he said that people might not be used to having to work but thats the way things are with me. It just seems weird. That might just be the reality for me.