Discussion: Autism and Polyamory
From what I've seen, in the polyamory world, a "V" means a relationship where 1 person is in a relationship with 2 others, but the 2 others aren't in a relationship with each other. What you've described is usually called a "triad" - think of a triangle, all 3 points are connected to each other - so you're in a relationship with both girls and both girls are in a relationship with each other (or 3 girls are in relationship with each other or 3 guys or 1 girl and 2 guys). If a polyamorous relationship is intended to be long-term and exclusive, it's sometimes called "polyfidelity" rather than "polyamory" to indicate that all involved members (3 in a triad) are faithful to each other and committed to a longer relationship, as opposed to "swingers" or others who have multiple short-term relationships.
A polyfidelity-based triad would, I think, be a very supportive and solid arrangement with the right 3 people. They're rare, because generally once 2 get together, any 3rd assumes they're "unavailable" and it's hard to make anything come about...but I'd love to be one of the exceptions. I am already part of a couple, so know that my chances of experiencing a triad are pretty slight (my partner would be happy to have a 2nd girl as well, but changing desire into reality is difficult), but if I ended up being one of the lucky ones, that'd be awesome. My partner got to know a triad and he's told me about their story, and I've read stories of a few others. How they get together is always interesting to hear about - usually, it seems, none of the involved parties had any clue polyamory even existed, but somehow they still ended up together.
Here's one blog that I really enjoyed reading through: http://itaintyourmamasthreesome.blogspot.com
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If you want all those guys to make love to you at the same time--yes, it's polyamory. If you want those guys to make love to you at different times--yes, it's polyamory. I don't think it's uncommon, actually--at least in people's fantasies.
I wouldn't mind going "three ways" with two women--but definitely NOT a man and a woman! I prefer one woman, though.
When I was 19, some guy wanted to do it "three ways" with him and my ex-girlfriend. I walked right out the door.
I wouldn't mind going "three ways" with two women--but definitely NOT a man and a woman! I prefer one woman, though.
When I was 19, some guy wanted to do it "three ways" with him and my ex-girlfriend. I walked right out the door.
Heheheh. I meant MORE than just a couple people. Maybe I wanted some kind of orgy or something as a kid.
I used to have a vague feeling when I used to play "house" with girls. But my first intense sexual feelings was when I was about 14.
You would have made a pretty good Roman!
I started having sexual feelings at 11!
I kind of wonder if being molested may have caused me to have sexual feelings at an earlier age.
I'm sorry you were molested. I was molested, too--but later.
11 is not really that "abnormal." When I was in 6th grade, at least half the girls in the class had already had their periods. And they were "developing" delightfully.
Being molested, unfortunately, could lead to "too early" sexual feelings.
11 is not really that "abnormal." When I was in 6th grade, at least half the girls in the class had already had their periods. And they were "developing" delightfully.
Being molested, unfortunately, could lead to "too early" sexual feelings.
I didn't start "developing" until I was 13, which was the same age I started my period.
I've had sexual feelings for women since I was 4 years old, or younger.
I don't remember anything in my life at all before being 4 years old.
My family tells me I was attracted to girls my age when I was 1 or 2 years old.
When I was 5 years old, I saw nude photos of women and I liked it.
When I was 9 years old, I saw hardcore video porn, and I wished that there were no guys in the video.
I was molested before I had memories.
One family member caught the other family member molesting me as a baby.
The family member doing it to me saw nothing wrong with it, said it was a tradition from where they come from.
Could this be why I've always been attracted to women for my entire life?
How awful.
As for polyamory, I could take it or leave it.
When I was 13 years old, I had my first sexual encounter with a female my age.
I had to share her with a few other guys.
I didn't even know her name until later.
She just showed up, and she allowed everyone in our group of so-called-friends.
I got to stay the night with her in her room. Everyone else went home. I felt like a winner, like she chose me.
Two days later, she wasn't into me anymore.
I felt so high because of her.
But, when it was over, I felt like I was having withdrawals for about 2 or 3 years.
From what I've seen, in the polyamory world, a "V" means a relationship where 1 person is in a relationship with 2 others, but the 2 others aren't in a relationship with each other. What you've described is usually called a "triad" - think of a triangle, all 3 points are connected to each other - so you're in a relationship with both girls and both girls are in a relationship with each other (or 3 girls are in relationship with each other or 3 guys or 1 girl and 2 guys). If a polyamorous relationship is intended to be long-term and exclusive, it's sometimes called "polyfidelity" rather than "polyamory" to indicate that all involved members (3 in a triad) are faithful to each other and committed to a longer relationship, as opposed to "swingers" or others who have multiple short-term relationships.
A polyfidelity-based triad would, I think, be a very supportive and solid arrangement with the right 3 people. They're rare, because generally once 2 get together, any 3rd assumes they're "unavailable" and it's hard to make anything come about...but I'd love to be one of the exceptions. I am already part of a couple, so know that my chances of experiencing a triad are pretty slight (my partner would be happy to have a 2nd girl as well, but changing desire into reality is difficult), but if I ended up being one of the lucky ones, that'd be awesome. My partner got to know a triad and he's told me about their story, and I've read stories of a few others. How they get together is always interesting to hear about - usually, it seems, none of the involved parties had any clue polyamory even existed, but somehow they still ended up together.
Here's one blog that I really enjoyed reading through: http://itaintyourmamasthreesome.blogspot.com
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I knew I was gay/first had sexual feelings when I was 9 bc I saw this artistic portrait of a naked man and I got super turned on and I was like "Hey wait a minute"...
I discovered I was Poly when I had a crush on this one boy at school, but had another crush at the same time. I kept telling myself "No! it's not supposed to work that way!". Then I found out that that is, in fact, a thing and thought it described me pretty well.
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I do have fantasies of dating the iCarly star Miranda Cosgrove while still having my girlfriend but I'd only be open to poly if I can have Miranda & still keep my girlfriend but otherwise I won't consider being with anyone but my girlfriend. I had a mega HUGE crush obsession with Miranda before I got my girlfriend so that's wear the fantasy stems from.
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One of my exes and I dated a girl together and it was really enjoyable, for a while...
He ended up breaking-up with me for her.
It was actually for the best. He was a huge jerk but I couldn't bring myself to leave him.
In my fantasy life I would be in a triad with a male and female. However, I love my current bf too much to risk losing him.
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