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20 Oct 2015, 3:58 am

For the men with mild Asperger's like me, in your experience, what "type" of girl is most compatible considering AS characteristics/tendencies...?



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20 Oct 2015, 1:01 pm

Wouldn't know, never had a gf.



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20 Oct 2015, 5:22 pm

Wouldn't know, I am a woman.


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20 Oct 2015, 5:24 pm

Drawyer wrote:
Wouldn't know, I am a woman.


Hence "for men" in the title.


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20 Oct 2015, 5:26 pm

Perhaps another girl with AS would be able to relate to some of your symptoms.


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20 Oct 2015, 5:31 pm

Rudin wrote:
Drawyer wrote:
Wouldn't know, I am a woman.


Hence "for men" in the title.
Yea, I know but
I just wanted to be where only men are supposed to stay..heh..Is that illegal?


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20 Oct 2015, 5:38 pm

Drawyer wrote:
Rudin wrote:
Drawyer wrote:
Wouldn't know, I am a woman.


Hence "for men" in the title.
Yea, I know but
I just wanted to be where only men are supposed to stay..heh..Is that illegal?


BANNED :P

I don't know if I'd be considered mild AS or not. I just have AS as far as I know. I'd just go for women who are like you in some ways.



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20 Oct 2015, 5:45 pm

I'm happiest around the beautiful strange ones, the only real commonality is that I'm invariably scared of normal people. Anybody else can have troubles with walling themselves in too, so I think it's good to eat/drink something and sit somewhere you can people-watch as a means of informing yourself about who you *might already* have some camaraderie with. If your social life as it were has been shaken up lately and you find you don't want to go about finding some new way to identify your sorts of people, be patient and think of ways to help those you already know identify with you.

Can't say I've ever put much thought into exactly how girls' brains work and how psychology might refer to them, isn't it more important what people do with their minds anyway?


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20 Oct 2015, 5:50 pm

Certainly not one who is an uptight, humorless c-word who gets her panties in a bunch over everything.

And those very often seem to belong to group whose label begins with F and ends with -eminists.

I want a traditionalist girl who doesn't get a nervous breakdown handling pans, casseroles and other kitchen stuff.

Someone who doesn't mind if I fart loudly from the recliner as I play videogames.

That chick who keeps her weight in check and exercises regularly. I can demand that, because I can offer that myself, being fit and eating a good diet.

To sum it up: One who can loosen up mentally, but takes care of herself physically. Someone I can talk to about anything without it being "sexist" or "misogynist" or whatever else. There's an "-ist" available for any situation, which illustrates the gravity of the problem.

Basically a woman who doesn't think there is such a thing as having a "wrong opinion". Still looking for that girl because I haven't met a single candidate yet :)



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20 Oct 2015, 5:57 pm

Drawyer wrote:
Rudin wrote:
Drawyer wrote:
Wouldn't know, I am a woman.


Hence "for men" in the title.
Yea, I know but
I just wanted to be where only men are supposed to stay..heh..Is that illegal?


Nope.


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21 Oct 2015, 1:04 am

Drawyer wrote:
Rudin wrote:
Drawyer wrote:
Wouldn't know, I am a woman.


Hence "for men" in the title.
Yea, I know but
I just wanted to be where only men are supposed to stay..heh..Is that illegal?

O.o



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21 Oct 2015, 1:43 am

Rudin wrote:
Drawyer wrote:
Rudin wrote:
Drawyer wrote:
Wouldn't know, I am a woman.


Hence "for men" in the title.
Yea, I know but
I just wanted to be where only men are supposed to stay..heh..Is that illegal?


Nope.


Legal, though only because we deported the fashion police...


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21 Oct 2015, 2:19 am

Non-conformists who value extremely blunt and outspoken honesty.

Aspie or non-aspie, does not matter. Just someone who does not follow societies traditional social rules and expectations and dating rules and expectations.

Someone who does not ascribe themselves to what I call 'the game'.

Though this is no indicator of relationship success and no guarantees but rather tendencies.

My ex-girlfriend was what I described, simply put she is terrible.



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21 Oct 2015, 6:14 am

I say always go for the quiet, shy ones. There's often some very interesting stuff under that shell just waiting to come out.

Outgoing women are such a turn off to me personally.

I'd also as was said suggest one who's somewhat on the more traditional side of gender roles though not to say a 1950's housewife or anything. But that could be just personal taste as I tend toward brutish male.



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21 Oct 2015, 10:09 am

Haven't found one yet

I don't even know, I guess maybe I'm not mild I dunno. What does mild mean? I am plenty smart but functional? Not really.

The only characteristic I would honestly look for is just someone that is nice and likes me for me. Tall order on those.



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21 Oct 2015, 1:06 pm

beakybird wrote:
I say always go for the quiet, shy ones. There's often some very interesting stuff under that shell just waiting to come out.

Outgoing women are such a turn off to me personally.


^ This would be my guess. I've never had a GF but I tend to get along much better with these women than with the outgoing hypersocial ones.