Today I pushed myself and went to a concert

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21 Nov 2015, 7:28 pm

I went way out of my comfort zone and went to see Marilyn Manson in concert today.

The opening band Krokodil were great, but the speakers were extremely loud. It was too much for me to handle and I actually had to plug my ears because it was so painful. The singer was screaming, so that did not help. This noise scared me so much and I was very close to having a meltdown, my legs wouldn't stop shaking because the noise was incredibly unpleasant and overwhelming.

Despite that it was a nice experience to go to my first concert and see a favourite musician in the flesh. Definitely won't be going to any other concerts again though.

If you're autistic and sensitive noise bring ear plugs with you to the concert. I learnt that the hard way today. :(


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21 Nov 2015, 9:04 pm

That's great that you tried something new, and sorry that it was stressful for you. Sometimes we just need to try things out to see if we're comfortable with them or not.



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21 Nov 2015, 9:09 pm

Marilyn Manson scares me.


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21 Nov 2015, 9:19 pm

Awesome concert to start with. I second what TheAP said. I have friends on the spectrum who won't even touch loud concerts. I have been going to loud concerts and I love them. If anything bothers me at concerts, its being near by a cluster of people and a moshpit happening right next to me, so I raise my awareness more than other people. Most of the time, I like being in a less crowded area at concerts. I remember attending Starset and some idiot mashed into me and I was rammed into a girl who fell and hit her head unfortunately.



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21 Nov 2015, 10:37 pm

It's great that you went out of your comfort zone to see your favourite singer perform. You should be very proud of yourself. 8)


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22 Nov 2015, 1:14 am

Good on you for coming early to see the supporting band. I always feel bad when I see an opening act play to a half-empty venue for a disinterested audience.

I've never had to wear earphones to a concert, although it's not a bad idea. I usually get cheap tickets towards the back of the place, far from the actual action.



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22 Nov 2015, 5:24 am

The wife dragged me to a concert at a casino near where we live. I could not stay there for more than 5 minutes. The volume as so loud. I couldn't even plug my ears enough to stop the pain. I don't know how those other people stayed in there. Before that, my last concert was 37 years ago in San Diego. Blue Oyster Cult, Cheap Trick, Pat Travers, etc....Old people stuff..... and usually stayed out in the nosebleed seats.

I'm sure my 'condition' helped me keep from freaking out with the surrounding happenings.


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22 Nov 2015, 5:42 am

I am so pleased that you experienced your first concert even though it was challenging.

In Feb this year I took my daughter to see One Direction..it cost just under $600 for 2 tickets right at the front, the things we do! Anyway I am so glad she got to experience her favourite band right up close, it has given her a lasting memory that she still talks about excitedly. I however struggled..I can not stand girls squealing, I was in sensory overload, I had earplugs in and pretty much dissociated from the whole thing. We ended up staying in a hotel that night as I couldn't drive home.


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22 Nov 2015, 9:15 am

SpaceAgeBushRanger wrote:
Good on you for coming early to see the supporting band. I always feel bad when I see an opening act play to a half-empty venue for a disinterested audience.

I've never had to wear earphones to a concert, although it's not a bad idea. I usually get cheap tickets towards the back of the place, far from the actual action.


When I have gone I always made it a point to see the opening act because you just never know. When I saw the B-52's headline at Forest Hills Stadium, the opening act was a newer act just starting to get noticed called the Eurythmics.

Yes bieng squeezed and jostled was the worst part of my club and concert experiences.


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22 Nov 2015, 10:05 am

I allow myself one or two big ticket concerts a year. Yes they are loud but I always sit in the rafters and still enjoy myself. Am lucky to have a spouse to go with.

Good job pushing yourself to try something new.


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22 Nov 2015, 1:01 pm

CockneyRebel wrote:
It's great that you went out of your comfort zone to see your favourite singer perform. You should be very proud of yourself. 8)


Thank you for the kind words! :D


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22 Nov 2015, 1:10 pm

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Awesome concert to start with. I second what TheAP said. I have friends on the spectrum who won't even touch loud concerts. I have been going to loud concerts and I love them. If anything bothers me at concerts, its being near by a cluster of people and a moshpit happening right next to me, so I raise my awareness more than other people. Most of the time, I like being in a less crowded area at concerts. I remember attending Starset and some idiot mashed into me and I was rammed into a girl who fell and hit her head unfortunately.


Oh my, that is my worst nightmare too. The mosh pit is rather too rowdy for my liking. And that was rather unfortunate, sorry you had to experience that. Some people seem to have no self awareness what so ever.


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22 Nov 2015, 1:11 pm

I am pretty sure that Marilyn Manson would not be my first choice of concert I would want to go to but I am really proud of you for going. That is really awesome. And since that is the music you like, than you should be able to really enjoy it. I am so glad you did. There are some great ear plugs that are made specifically for going to concerts. They cut the edge off but still allow you to really hear the music. You might look into those so that you can enjoy seeing your favorite musician more often. But well done moving out or your comfort zone. That is a really great achievement. :D


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22 Nov 2015, 1:17 pm

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I am so pleased that you experienced your first concert even though it was challenging.

In Feb this year I took my daughter to see One Direction..it cost just under $600 for 2 tickets right at the front, the things we do! Anyway I am so glad she got to experience her favourite band right up close, it has given her a lasting memory that she still talks about excitedly. I however struggled..I can not stand girls squealing, I was in sensory overload, I had earplugs in and pretty much dissociated from the whole thing. We ended up staying in a hotel that night as I couldn't drive home.


Thank you! :)
And I am glad that your daughter got to see her favourite band. :D It must have been so exciting. And putting up with the sensory overload in order to give your daughter a great experience is commendable!


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22 Nov 2015, 1:23 pm

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I am pretty sure that Marilyn Manson would not be my first choice of concert I would want to go to but I am really proud of you for going. That is really awesome. And since that is the music you like, than you should be able to really enjoy it. I am so glad you did. There are some great ear plugs that are made specifically for going to concerts. They cut the edge off but still allow you to really hear the music. You might look into those so that you can enjoy seeing your favorite musician more often. But well done moving out or your comfort zone. That is a really great achievement. :D


Thank you! :D
And I definitely will be looking for some good ear plugs just on case I want to go to another concert... Or just to block out the noise. XD


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22 Nov 2015, 1:44 pm

I've went to quite a few concerts in the past (KISS, Judas Priest, Janet Jackson, Journey, Queen, Iron Maiden, System Of A Down, etc) but I was always drinking at them. Couldn't go to a show unless I had a pint or two in me. Would you believe The Police had the nerve to start playing while I was still on the beer line? The horror!