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05 Jun 2007, 3:14 am

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:( Once I had an eight hour panic attack over imagining I might have offended my boss (I hadn't). Luckily I can do this without any outward sign anymore. It just feels scary and awful.


Panic, or offend your boss?



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05 Jun 2007, 3:16 am

This is pretty much the core of my social problems. I don't know how to react, and I don't want to offend so I am very cautious and don't do anything. I overly concern myself with how I am going to phrase what I am going to say.

If I actually want to offend I just close up and I don't interact with anyone... but I barely even register a response. But I have to be pretty upset for this to happen... it is very rare.

I made an astute observation at an early age... that people react to me based on how I react to them. I used to always just say what is on the top of my head random crazy things (like kids often do), I was deemed pretty obnoxous by my peers. I made an observation that the reason I was being ridiclued and left out was that I was saying such stupid things... so after that I made it a point to always think before speaking... and never speak unless I have something important to say.


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05 Jun 2007, 3:19 am

Well, both. Sort of.

I've never had a boss mad at me, except the one who was dishonest and unethical, so I didn't care what she thought of me. So the whole panic thing was really rather unreasonable on my part. It's like believing the boogyman is gonna get me.



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05 Jun 2007, 4:48 am

I'm always tripping over my words, I'm often bold, frank and blunt with people I know and feel comfortable with. Bring on the strangers and I seem to turn into a bottom kisser to avoid any kind of confrontation/anxiety in my body. People pleasing and overt generosity has been my way of dealing with people and its only brought me strife and a lack of respect cos they just walk all over me. I avoid people these days its just too overwhelming.



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05 Jun 2007, 4:54 am

poopylungstuffing wrote:
i have had occasions of exreme parinoia about having offended people....(will try to be more articulate than that later)

Yeah i have those.


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05 Jun 2007, 5:14 am

gwenevyn wrote:
Well, both. Sort of.

I've never had a boss mad at me, except the one who was dishonest and unethical, so I didn't care what she thought of me. So the whole panic thing was really rather unreasonable on my part. It's like believing the boogyman is gonna get me.


I suppose that I can see panic without outward signs,
but what do you mean by giving offense without? That
you don't show any emotion, or that it's too subtle for
them to see?



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05 Jun 2007, 9:13 am

I think I meant I was afraid of having offended even though the person didn't act like I had?

But it was the wee hours, so I'm not altogether sure what I meant. :lol:



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05 Jun 2007, 9:16 am

richardbenson wrote:
im never really afraid of offending anyone. i pretty mcuh say whatever i think




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05 Jun 2007, 9:28 am

I don't care about offending people for the most part. Selfish, but true.