Is strict rule following really a thing with Asperger's?

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I have heard this a lot, but haven't really observed it much in others. I have even seen it described as a virtue when it is anything but. I feel like I don't relate to this symptom at all. And yes, I call it a symptom because rules are often made by organizations that don't have aspies in mind at all at best or at worst are constructs from corporations that only care about their bottom line. I am not a strict rule follower. Rules are a social construct.

Very often, rules can be broken without causing any disruption whatsoever. I have a medical marijuana card and due to housing prices essentially doubling in my region in a year, I really didn't have choice but to sign for the only place I can afford. Can't really move if the prices increase that fast. I have used this treatment since 2019. They say I cannot use marijuana despite it being medical. They cite federal law and all that. Im not surprised. The interests of insurance companies and the like are more important than me as a paying tenant. I smoke outside where it won't disturb my roommates but it is still against the rules. I cannot even go swimming after dusk. I am going into my second year here and have broken both of these rules on a regular basis. How? I do it in a way that isn't disruptive. I smoke somewhere discretely and swim when the security guard leaves to patrol another apartment.

Liability and culture amongst other things has led to corporations creating lots of rules. The fact is that a substantial percentage of people cant afford to live in places where their lives aren't controlled by external humans and inaccurate assumptions (isn't that the aspie dream?). We are going into a time when few people can afford their own property and I fear that those on the spectrum will be the most impacted.

I'm fairly sensory hyposensitive. Maybe the sensory hypersensitive have a different view? I don't care if I hear a pool party by my window at 2am. Id hear it every single night if it meant that I could take a dip when I wanted to at 2am. The noise literally does not phase me in the slightest. If I walk by cigarettes (which I don't smoke), I am so used to it that I don't even notice it.

My current apartment told us (without it being mentioned in the lease) to keep our AC in auto rather than on. It is bad for the system. Roommate wants to obey some maintenance dude, as that is "what the office wants". I really couldn't care less what the office wants, they are mandated by the lease to fix our AC when it breaks and if I want the fan on then I want the fan on. Utility bill isn't high. If it breaks then I will just tell the maintenance team it was on auto the entire time and unexpectedly failed at 72F (that is another stereotype...we apparently cannot tell lies).

I've always had a clash with authority figures and I feel like my Asperger's positively contributes to that instead of negatively and merely being the exception. The idea that people with Asperger's blindly follow rules is some of the strangest BS I have ever heard. It doesn't make sense.

Often times there are also those with pathological demand avoidance as well. The tendency to follow rules blindly has a lot to do with the typical black and white thinking combined with limited ability to accurately judge the thoughts and motives of others.

But, it is going to depend a lot on the individual and how their brain developed.

My boss has described me as "doing things by the book". But even then, I don't always adhere to rules 100%. More than others, though.

I generally like to follow rules if they seem logical, or necessary, but tend to disregard rules if they seem arbitrary, or make no sense.
I think one reason aspies are rule oriented is that rules provide stability in a seemingly chaotic world that can be hard for many of us to understand.

i feel like i will follow the rules if the rules make sense and dont harm anyone.

There was a thread here saying about Aspies don't follow rules while the NTs are the rule-followers.

I hate rules. I hate being told what to do. Or my lack of attention issues can make me inadvertently break rules like health and safety rules, so whenever we get an inspector come to work I have to consciously make sure I'm doing everything safely.
Despite that, I'm not accident prone nor fearless of danger. Quite the opposite actually to both. So that just proves how ridiculous some health and safety rules are.

I dunno really. It depends if there's money involved.

I like my own rules that I make for myself. I don't like rules that are imposed on me. The main thing that makes me follow rules is to avoid the social interaction that often happens when you break the rules. If I think I can get away with something then I'll probably do it.

At one of the schools I went to there was a door that was a shortcut. Students weren't allowed to use this door but teachers were. I couldn't stand that door rule and I went through it religiously because of that. In a world of stupid arbitrary rules that was the one that really made me angry. I can still feel a bit of anger writing about it now.

I hate health and safety rules the most. I rather just go by my common sense, and usually if I'm doing something a little risky I 100% know what I'm doing and can be in control without any accidents occurring. Usually with me accidents are caused when not breaking any health and safety rules.

Health and safety used to be a "don't do that, it's not very nice hurting yourself" thing, but nowadays it's more like "I don't care if you die, as long as the business doesn't get sued for it, so try not to die please."

I'm a strict rule follower. Rules provide structure and stability in a chaotic and disordered environment.

I used to break a good few rules when I was young. Later on rules didn't get in my way so much and I had less to prove. I don't think about it much these days. When I do, I tend to be careful to avoid too much black-and-white thinking, so I can consider whether or not to bend a rule. A lot of rules are blunt instruments that are best ignored sometimes.