I'm moving and I am scared

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So, the time nears and I will be moving to a new state in two months. I have not moved out of state since I was 18 years old, and I was about to start college. I'm not really sure what I need to do when I move, other than change my license plates, driver's license, tags, etc. I have a place ready for me, so I don't need to worry about finding an apartment to rent.

I knew this was happening months ago, but it all came in a rush when I received an email from my property manager that I had to let them know 60 days before we move out, and it was a week right before it was officially 60 days away. I've been anxious the last couple of days. I don't really know what else I need to do other than the obvious: find a job, update information. The thought of being even further away from family, living in a new state with new people. I don't know how I will handle this big change.

Any advice, tips, or information is desired greatly. I have no idea what the hell I am doing.

That sounds scary. I mean, for anyone, moving house is a stressful experience. Add in the complications of distance, regulatory requirements from changing states, and autism, and it is easy to imagine how stressed you are.

I'd suggest that you start packing things that you don't use every day, like sentimental items. Also start thinking about whether there is anything you want to give away so you don't need to take it with you.

Be patient with yourself.

Do you have people to help you pack, and especially to help you move?

Don't move out on the last day of your lease. Move slightly before then, so you can have someone clean the place before you go.

Try to familiarise yourself with your new surroundings as best as possible. Where will you go to buy groceries? Where will you go to practice your hobbies or activities? Where is the nearest bus stop and the nearest train station? What route will you take when you need to visit your family? Figuring out the answers to these questions should assuage some concerns and make the transition less difficult.

I'm sorry that I can't provide specific advice on moving across state lines, but hopefully something I have said will be useful.

If you have a good friend, I would recommend calling them often for support (if not . . I may be available to talk).

1) make a list or lists of the things you need to accomplish for the move (changing utilities etc.)

2) try to pack little by little and label things ( I think this makes it a lot less overwhelming and easier to unpack.)

3) try to sit quietly for five minutes a day and just breathe a bit. It's going to be okay!

I am going through a similar situation. I feel lucky to have a dog who is a great support! If you ever have the opportunity or do have pets, I would spend plenty of time with them. I hope you have a relaxing and enjoyable move

Moving can be very scary.  It breaks your routine and changes everything.

Maybe you could try thinking of it as an extended vacation?

Applied for a really BIG job. Haven't done much packing wise, but the next time I go out to where I am moving, I know which boxes I will be taking.

Are you feeling any better today?

Everything will be fine. Just slow down, take a breath and take it one step at a time. Sounds like you pretty much have a handle on changing your ids and addresses and all that. If you can, do not do a change of address card at the post office. That is never a good idea. Change your address one company or person at a time. Just take your time with everything. Label your packing boxes well so that it makes unpacking easier.

Once you get to your new location, take a couple of days to explore the town and get familiar with where everything is. As far as getting a job, start looking for one now. You can use computer searches. You can also see if there is an Office of Vocational Rehabilitation to help you find work. That is their job. If you have an official diagnosis, that will help but if you don't still reach out to them if there is an office in the area you are moving to. If you don't have an official diagnosis, they can help you get one if you need one. That is how I got mine. You can also look to see if the town you are moving to has an ARC. They can also help you find work.

You can do this. You will be fine. The most important thing is to just take it one step at a time so that you don't get overwhelmed.

Mini update:

Moving a ton of stuff this weekend. Can't find any jobs yet, had a bit of a meltdown with the bf.

Good luck with the move, honeytoast

Stuff is packed and ready to be transported. Applied to some jobs around the area. Had another little cry because I am having anxiety about finding a new job.

^ A job search is difficult for anyone, let alone with anxiety/autism thrown into the mix.

I am sure you will do okay, honeytoast.