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15 Oct 2023, 4:43 am

Last night 2 women I was with (one was 30 and the other 35) reported me to security accusing me of following them around. And yes the same girl I had a dance /held hands with back in 2019 (and her friend) reported me.


The security knew I was autistic though and were sympathetic. The question is though do you think I am on mh way to the creepzone?



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15 Oct 2023, 5:06 am

Just try to not follow people about. It might come across as a bit stalkerish

I don't think you're a creep BTW


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15 Oct 2023, 5:12 am

babybird wrote:
Just try to not follow people about. It might come across as a bit stalkerish

I don't think you're a creep BTW



It was awful though in the sense that one of the girls used to like me in 2019. In March 2019 we had a dance and held hands and well last night she gave me the cold shoulder.



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15 Oct 2023, 5:16 am

People change unfortunately and sometimes they're not very kind.


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15 Oct 2023, 5:19 am

babybird wrote:
People change unfortunately and sometimes they're not very kind.



What do you mean by not very kind?



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15 Oct 2023, 5:21 am

Well if she's just ignored you like she doesn't even know you and then repeortedd you then that's not a very nice thing to do to you.


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15 Oct 2023, 5:26 am

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Well if she's just ignored you like she doesn't even know you and then repeortedd you then that's not a very nice thing to do to you.



Yeah true



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15 Oct 2023, 10:14 am

Jamesy.

Do not associate yourself with women at bars. Only a fool would do that! Stay away from such places.

Go to men only places instead where you can be safe.


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15 Oct 2023, 10:22 am

Well Mountain Goat, I think that you are being too harsh on women. There are good and bad in both the male and female populations.


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15 Oct 2023, 10:25 am

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Well Mountain Goat, I think that you are being too harsh on women. There are good and bad in both the male and female populations.



One of my dads former friends who has aspergers was ostracised for saying "Women are nasty pieces of works"



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15 Oct 2023, 10:26 am

So Jamesy has made women uncomfortable by his behavior (yet again) which inspires another member to say that most women are evil. It makes a lot of sense. :roll:

I believe that most people are decent.


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15 Oct 2023, 10:27 am

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So Jamesy has made women uncomfortable by his behavior (again) which inspires another member to say that most women are evil. It makes a lot of sense. :roll:

I believe that most people are decent.



I told the women I was autistic. Door security said to me they were trying to protect the girls.

To be honest I only really followed them around because I like one of them.



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15 Oct 2023, 10:29 am

You keep on using autism as an excuse even though people keep on telling you what is or isn't appropriate. It seems more like you want to engage in the behavior than anything else. Women shouldn't have to put up with it.


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15 Oct 2023, 10:30 am

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You keep on using autism as an excuse even though people keep on telling you what is or isn't appropriate. It seems more like you want to engage in the behavior than anything else. Women shouldn't have to put up with it.



I just told them I was autistic in the pub that's all.



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15 Oct 2023, 10:31 am

Don't follow women around whether you like them or not next time.


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15 Oct 2023, 10:33 am

Jamesy wrote:
Mountain Goat wrote:
Jamesy.

Do not associate yourself with women at bars. Only a fool would do that! Stay away from such places.

Go to men only places instead where you can be safe.

You being sarcastic?


No he's not. He's exaggerating a bit though but I think you need to try and understand that pubs and nightclubs aren't like the school disco. They're not necessarily places where you're gonna find a girlfriend. Not these days anyway.


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