She is young and will sort it out! hormones raging at that age interfere with judgement as well. If college doesn't work out, there are many options where she can fill a niche and be happy in her life. She'll be OK. I have 2 autistic adult offspring, both are living independently now (one with help and extra support) things settle down as they get older. I have read that individuals grow mentally and emotionally more from age 20 to 30 than they do from age 10 to 20. Imagine that!! ! Cheering you both on, its will be OK. <3