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goldfish21
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07 Jan 2024, 6:26 pm

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"Child support" doesn't mean that the father's payments cover all of the child's expenses.
Custodial mothers pay the same amount of "support" for the child.

For example if the child's needs will cost $2000 / month, they each pay half.
Dad pays by court order.
Mother pays by using her own money.

Receipts are required to be provided to the court by both parents.
The mother couldn't fail to pay her share and go to Hawaii, for example.

In that regard both parents pay equal child support, in ideal circumstances.
If the payor is a deadbeat, then the custodial parent pays more than 50%, often 100%.


I've read exactly Zero stories of women living in their trucks or sleeping on a floor somewhere because they have to pay their ex husband so much in child support that they can't afford a roof over their own head, but I've read PLENTY of stories of fathers in that exact situation or just barely above it & have heard some in person directly from afflicted fathers. It is not a 50/50 financial burden thing for divorced parents. Almost always fathers are treated like ATMs while having limited/no access to their children and no say in their upbringing. Some spend YEARS in court paying lawyers and eventually may re-gain custody from unfit mothers, but Most make the business decision to just pay and do the best they can to emotionally sever themselves from their children they're not allowed to see so that they can function in life. It's a pretty s**t system we have here that favours mothers having custody and fathers paying the bills regardless of financial hardship. It's little wonder so many divorced fathers head North for camp work to try to make ends meet and satisfy court requirements to pay.


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07 Jan 2024, 6:27 pm

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We both know what Jamesy was talking about. His OP clarifies it further.

Fake news.


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07 Jan 2024, 6:28 pm

I guess you haven't read my posts then, or Twilight's, or stories from single mothers worldwide.

*Yes, there are single fathers and deadbeat women. I know some myself. But that wasn't the topic.*


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07 Jan 2024, 6:31 pm

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The only "sexist" comments in this thread are the ones that attempt to paint women as gold diggers.

Are we pretending gold diggers don't exist now? :chin: They most certainly do.

Not ALL people with vaginas are gold diggers, but more gold diggers have vaginas than penises. This may be simply due to the penis endowed being higher paid at most jobs still these days, but may also be due to evolutionary biology of the fairer sex seeking a provider type male whether that be the big game hunt kill or fat paycheque in modern times.

But gold diggers do most certainly exist and not just the ones on History Channel sluicing Earth for nuggets.


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07 Jan 2024, 6:34 pm

Yes, they exist, but so do the men who are willing to encourage it.
Men have bought women or attempted to buy women, since the beginning of time.

Perhaps men should be faulted for that choice, at least 50% of the time.


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07 Jan 2024, 6:37 pm

goldfish21 wrote:
IsabellaLinton wrote:
The only "sexist" comments in this thread are the ones that attempt to paint women as gold diggers.

Are we pretending gold diggers don't exist now? :chin: They most certainly do.

Not ALL people with vaginas are gold diggers, but more gold diggers have vaginas than penises. This may be simply due to the penis endowed being higher paid at most jobs still these days, but may also be due to evolutionary biology of the fairer sex seeking a provider type male whether that be the big game hunt kill or fat paycheque in modern times.

But gold diggers do most certainly exist and not just the ones on History Channel sluicing Earth for nuggets.

I’m expecting a mod to lock this thread and/or clean it up, so there’s probably not much point in responding further.

Saying more people with vaginas are gold diggers than otherwise is sexist and clearly against the rules.

The amount of insensitivity that’s been displayed here - towards women and single moms - is beyond belief.


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07 Jan 2024, 6:43 pm

We already have lots of threads on this topic.
We've already admitted that yes, some women are gold diggers.
Duh.
All women are different.
Some are gold diggers.
Some aren't.


It's almost the same as the fact men aren't all deadbeats.
Some are.
They're not all invalidating prigs.
Some are.
They aren't all sexist.
Some are.
They aren't all out to steal women's money or abandon kids.
Some do.


There are good men and bad men.
There are good women and bad women.

I just wish the women here would be taken seriously.
I'm tired of being told my experiences don't count.
It seems I'm not "a real woman" unless I'm a bittch.

I'm pretty sure that's sexist.


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07 Jan 2024, 6:56 pm

We should count how many threads there are, locked or open, proclaiming how horrible women are.
We are gold diggers.
We are superficial.
We only care about their height, their dick size, their nose shape, their car, or their worth.
It's a miracle men want to date women at all, given this supposed truth.


I wonder how men would feel if we made threads about how horrible men are.

Possible topics?

All men are rapists, and your experience as a nice guy doesn't count!
All men abandon their families! No married men may reply
YT Videos: "Men hate women with brains!" "Men only want sex!"
Poll: Will men date short women? (responses from men don't count)


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07 Jan 2024, 6:57 pm

 ! Cornflake wrote:
Now the thread has become one of mansplaining how things are instead of understanding and validating the input from women showing that's not how things are, I think we're done here.

Locked.


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