Dating unemployed man

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In an ideal world, most people don't want a partner with a HUGE income disparity.
That goes both ways.
A rich man doesn't usually want a poor woman.
If they do, it's to objectify them or bring them up to standard e.g., My Fair Lady, Pretty Woman.
That's when men start acting like white knights and providers.
It's creepy.
Most women I know wouldn't want to play those roles.
They don't want to be dependent on some guy's money.


Personally, all things being equal, I'd prefer a man who isn't really rich or really poor.
If he's really poor he might want my money.
If he's really rich, he might look down on me or hire expensive lawyers in a breakup.

Just give me an average joe with average bucks, even if it's disability money like mine.
I'd never comingle our finances anyway, so it wouldn't / shouldn't matter what he earns.

I dated a homeless man when I was making six figures.
We dated for years.

Maybe I'm the outlyingest outlier there is.

The thread is about dating unemployed men, not about marrying them or shacking up together.
Going on a date to a restaurant or a movie doesn't require comingling money.
At best they take turns paying if they see each other again.


And no, I wasn't completely forgetting arm candy.
That's why I said most women I know wouldn't tolerate being treated that way.
We don't want to be bought for sex, or as a trophy.

A handful more examples of statistical outliers, not the norms.

Dating someone is far different than Hooking Up with someone. Beyond aesthetics and sexual health I don't need to know much of anything about a hookup. But to consider dating someone? Which is typically to test the waters of a long term relationship, and then dating evolves into some form of LTR, then there are a whole lot more criteria ranging from intelligence to ambition and income and other things that are all factors in determining whether someone is the right fit for a partner or not.

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No for supporting trump. Because doing so is deplorable.

Whatever doesn’t fit in with you specific worldview seems to be a statistical outlier. It’s fascinating considering this topic is about women dating men and you aren’t a woman nor do you date women.

The OP:

We both know what Jamesy was talking about. His OP clarifies it further.

The only "sexist" comments in this thread are the ones that attempt to paint women as gold diggers.