HELP!! !

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RSD = ?

You're young. Learn & change. Accept that there are MANY different types of people in this world and they are all people. Gay bi trans black asian short tall fat skinny etc. There's no reason for "not being able to handle," who someone else is.

But with your current thinking about people, your potential friend has been blessed by not having you in their life and has really dodged a bullet. No one needs a "friend," who can't "handle," that they exist.

You're not obligated to have any sexual or romantic interest in trans people, but there's simply no reason not to be able to "handle," that a friend is trans. (or black, or asian, or gay, or disabled, or fat, or short, or tall, or skinny etc.)

Firstly, RSD means Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria. It is common among autistic people because they feel emotional pain over any kind of rejection or denial they have in their mind regarding their view of reality.

Second of, my family expects me to have a family of my own in my late 20s, which is usually after college and so they would expect me to find a job and find love as well. Of course, I wouldn't judge a person for what they look like but at the same time I have my own dating preferences when it comes to finding love. I wouldn't have problems with other types of people, it's this very specific case of RSD that unfolded at the fact that my friend was trans and I was stupid and labeled them female and wanted to get a little intimate until I realized my mistake.

But this would unfortunately break me because of my autism. I felt nothing but emotional pain at the fact that my female friend who has ADHD identifies as trans. I didn't know how to react appropriately to that. They helped me so much in unmasking my autism a little but now that I've unmasked it too much, it became nothing but an emotionally unstable friendship where I constantly cried every time I heard male pronouns used on my female friend or when they told me to treat them like a man to which I had no prior experience.

Also, I am not attracted to trans people. I am attracted to girls hence why my unhealthy attachment came to be when I first met her. She didn't tell me about it first and never showed me that side until two weeks after. I felt frustrated in my poor efforts to recognize her as a man. I understand my failure. I should not be around trans people if I can't trust myself to be with them due to my preferences.

What your sexual and relationship preferences are is irrelevant to being around trans people. Learn to be around people you’re never going to be intimate with. It’s not that difficult.

Why has no one told me this? Why has my family never told me about this? Why did I never think about this?

Are you serious ?

You know what? I have something good for you at once. I hereby renounce my will to look for a neurodivergent female person because all it does is just harm someone else for no reason. Instead of being a f*****g creep, I will attain power through politics, become a president, create a socialist system in my own way, and only THEN will people SEE ME AND KNOW ME BETTER!! !

All of this pessimism is driving me to the point where I want to voice my own outcry and desire to change the country for the better. FOR THE GREATER GOOD!!

Or you could just learn to be good to everyone regardless of whether or not you want to hookup with them. Much easier.

The only way I feel like it could be possible is by actually fulfilling promises. I will do it even if it means enacting drastic measures to protect them from harm's way.

What do you mean actually fulfilling promises?

Regardless of what you mean, there are no conditions required to treat people decently.

What are you talking about enacting drastic measures to protect them from harms way ?

It's the only way for me to be regarded as likeable by others if I do something positive and show true faith of kindness to others, contributing to the society, and going beyond to regulating the society and protecting it from the harm of those who despise me who despise my will to fight for truth and joy. I can no longer sit still and wait for something. I must make it happen!

It's far more realistically achievable to learn and grow and change yourself to become a person that's accepting of others around you for who they are regardless of gender identity, race, religion, appearance and so forth than it is to become president and then get all of society to buy in to some sort of friend/partner assignment system.

If you want something in between, use a dating app/website that people list a bunch of things about themselves in their profile so you know more about them before you even start talking. Use the site/app filters to find people you're most interested in and filter out the ones you're not interested in.

Seriously, if you don’t like someone’s gender identity, you shouldn’t be wasting their time. Looking for someone you’ll be more compatible with on both sides of the coin would be a smart move.

Last edited by TwilightPrincess on 19 Jan 2024, 6:46 am, edited 2 times in total.

This sounds like a wise choice for me!

Horny, young men (or anyone else for that matter) should not lie to get sex. Once again, depending on what the lie is about, it impedes consent. Lying for sex is rapey behavior, especially if you think that the person wouldn’t have sex with you otherwise. I have no sympathy for creeps who do that. People who behave like that should probably stick with masturbation.

Or get life-sized soulless female plushies. That will surely reduce sexual abuse because they can't abuse real women then.

YES!!

Whatever works.