Flirting
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It could also be deliberate disrespect. An awkward guy who tries to flirt, but doesn't really know how, wouldn't do it that way. Something more typical might be if say, he's a clerk, and he goes out of his way to help the lady, beyond what his job requires.
Some WOULD do it that way, including some of the pervs on WP who joined the ranks of those-who-shall-not-be-named. There's quite a variety when it comes to human behavior. All people aren't the same. The individual who called me "honey" wasn't trying to be disrespectful in my opinion.
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She might but she didn't bring up that topic so who knows?
I suspect that most people are fully aware of it since it's not exactly rocket science, but it doesn't invalidate their experiences with feeling uncomfortable, etc. Other genders commit faux pas due to social awkwardness, too. Er...not that I would know anything about that.
I enjoy flirting when I've already gotten to know someone at least somewhat, and we have things in common, etc. Otherwise, I'm wary of intentions. If someone persists even though no reciprocal interest was demonstrated, that's another red flag.
Some of the difficulties in talking about this topic is that "flirting" is such a vague term and can mean different things to different people. I'm mostly talking about flirting with the intention of it leading to something more.
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Exit, pursued by a bear. – stage direction from Shakespeare’s The Winter’s Tale
Well some guys who flirt with you IRL might actually wish they could seriously date you. Sadly, not all, but you have to realize there's a lot of guys who don't think themselves even slightly attractive. Particularly if they have what might seem an awkward approach. A real player would be much smoother. Not that you should necessarily respond to any such advances, but you should be aware there are genuinely lonely guys out there wanting to connect but not knowing how. Even if your autism makes you less predisposed to getting romantically involved with somebody you encounter in your daily life.
I've dealt with lots of awkward advances, I know not all of them are like the ones with pet names. I mean, if the cashier was flirting with me at the restaurant that was awkward but a lot less creepy.
I'm more looking for a girlfriend, TBH (but am open to a boyfriend...maybe). There are whole stereotypes out there of us not being able to tell whenever we're flirting with each other, and sadly I think they're pretty accurate. LOL. Oh, how will I ever find someone? Between me having trouble reading people to begin with and this...
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Something other than flirting?
Like what?
According to our old friend Wikipedia, flirting is
A person might flirt with another by speaking or behaving in such a way that suggests their desire to increase intimacy in their current relationship with that person. The approach may include communicating a sense of playfulness, irony, or by using double entendres.
I don't think kissing someone in a situation like day program counts as body language.
Do you like that guy? Would you kiss him (like at a party)?
Hmm...maybe
He sure likes kissing me!
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Something other than flirting?
Like what?
According to our old friend Wikipedia, flirting is
A person might flirt with another by speaking or behaving in such a way that suggests their desire to increase intimacy in their current relationship with that person. The approach may include communicating a sense of playfulness, irony, or by using double entendres.
I don't think kissing someone in a situation like day program counts as body language.
Do you like that guy? Would you kiss him (like at a party)?
Hmm...maybe
He sure likes kissing me!
On the mouth?
Mikurotoro92
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Joined: 30 Aug 2022
Age: 31
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Something other than flirting?
Like what?
According to our old friend Wikipedia, flirting is
A person might flirt with another by speaking or behaving in such a way that suggests their desire to increase intimacy in their current relationship with that person. The approach may include communicating a sense of playfulness, irony, or by using double entendres.
I don't think kissing someone in a situation like day program counts as body language.
Do you like that guy? Would you kiss him (like at a party)?
Hmm...maybe
He sure likes kissing me!
On the mouth?
Lol
Oh no no no!! !
He probably wants to but if he even tried it he would land in hot water and possibly get kicked out of the program!
If I was to actually kiss him on the lips it would most likely be during those unsupervised dates
But on the hand is still VERY romantic
EDIT:
I forgot to mention there are a LOT of secluded rooms and places at the Day Program where 2 people could easily sneak away to but again the risk is too high!! !
The staff there always keeps an eye on us to make sure we don't go anywhere we aren't supposed to
I have thought about taking one of the men there into the storage room to have my way with him and it's hard to fight those urges!
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