My therapist thinks I can just learn social cues...
DanielW wrote:
You can repeat yourself as often as you like. Simply repeating yourself further isn't likely to make either of us agree on this point however. I've had enough poor therapists and poor therapy to last me quite some time. There are plenty of therapists (including occupational and speech/language therapists) that can do a better job at social skill training that goes well beyond DIY, I assure you.
You can assure me as often as you like. Simply offering assurances isn't likely to make me agree on this point.
And anyways, I'm not trying to convince you of anything. Still allowed to disagree with you.
Persisting in referring to any expectation of self-guided therapeutic strategy as a total abandonment by the therapist, does not magically make that the reality. Indicating that the watching of videos would be ok, so long as the doctor verifies the vids first is a minor complaint at best, and still hardly constitutes "fobbing off" - and is easily remedied by simply asking the therapist if they could recommend some since you're not sure where to start - or otherwise clarifying your needs - instead of simply taking offense and firing them.
That aside...
Bee33 is correct. Social cues include physical elements like body language, but also verbal elements like tone of voice and word usage.
babybird wrote:
babybird wrote:
Are social cues the same as body language
Anyone?
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uncommondenominator wrote:
Believing that one's self is incapable of self-improvement seems to be a highly common form of self-sabotage.
Agreed, but the opposite problem -- overestimating either one's own or someone else's potential abilities and pouring too much time and energy into vain efforts, often to the point of causing burnout and other mental health problems -- does exist also.
Many autistic people have intrinsic difficulties, e.g. attention issues, sensory issues, and/or face-blindness, that intrinsically make it difficult to perceive -- not just difficult to learn to perceive -- at least some (though not necessarily all) kinds of social cues.
I do think it's important to work on improving one's abilities to the extent that one can. But I also think it's important to be able to identify one's exact sources of difficulty, so that one can make a realistic assessment of which specific kinds of improvements are possible and which are not.
For example, a physically blind person cannot be taught to see but can, in most cases, be taught to read Braille, navigate with a cane, and use various kinds of assistive technology.
The exact sources of most autistic people's difficulties are less obvious than physical blindness, but they are nevertheless real.
Identifying one's exact sources of difficulty makes it possible both to (1) work on improving the things one can actually improve and (2) ask other people for specific accommodations in one's areas of intrinsic difficulty.
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