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02 Apr 2014, 5:05 pm

If you have had the extreme misfortune to grow up with NPD parent/parents, can I suggest that you read all you can about something called "traumatic bonding". One of the great tragedies is that even after Adult Children of Narcissists (ACONS) escape their personality disordered parents who are Malignant Narcissists, ere is a profound tendency to form relationships with partners and friends who are malignant narcissists, because subconsciously, this feels so familiar..

There are some great websites offering support, information and validation for ACONS



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06 Apr 2014, 10:32 am

MCalavera wrote:
hurtloam wrote:
MrKnowItAll wrote:
I don't want to put any more links in the chain of toxicity.


Same here. This gene pool ends with me.

Some times I wonder if I have Chronic Fatigue Syndrome because of the stressful upbringing I've had and trying to cope with my Mother. I am always super alert and just on the edge ready for fight or flight. I find it very hard to unwind. I am always tense which tires me out I think.


I'm not 100% certain if the gene pool has ended with me in my case. Sometimes I wonder if I'm a Narcissist in denial. My siblings look fine, though. They certainly have their heads screwed on straight.


Oh I don't mean I'm 100% ok. I have all sorts of issues. I mean I will actively stop the gene pool by not having any children to pass these genes on to. It worries me that I might have a child with similar problems to my Mother. Not so much for my own sake, but for the sake of the child. How would it cope? What would be the impact of that child's life on others when it grew up? How would it treat its spouse and children? I don't feel like starting the chain all over again.