Am I attractive?

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I know how you feel.... But here's the thing that keeps me going. If you dig a hole with a spoon it will take a long time.... but you will make the hole. Basically don't give up... keep fighting because the minute you feel like you get defeated all those jerk-ovs that treated you like sh*&% win. I know how hard it is man... I'm 26 and ive never had a steady GF. Want to know something interesting too? I'm not "average" looking or what have you (not tooting my own horn here) But even those of us with "looks" if you could even call it that have troubles. I've been on a dating site since '08 and no luck... but I still don't give up. Someday somethings got to give way... in a world that seems like its a crap ton of no's theres always a yes somewhere.

to the OP, if you go on Atkins, get a new haircut, you would be attractive. Assuming you're taller than I am, which isn't hard, and at least 5'9'', which is wayyy taller than me, you'd have a shot. Atkins is basically eating only meats/poultry/fish, non-starchy vegetables, and no-calorie drinks. Also, be sure to have at least 30 mins of elliptical/weight training a day. Also, having contacts would help your looks.

If not catching when someone says things without precisely saying them, if you're looking for an answer that is exactly, precise, and concise to your question, the answer is: No. Why? Because you have the haircut of younger boys, which women don't find attractive, and you're rather overweight. Also, with those two strikes against you, the glasses are the third.

Someone may call me mean, but call me nice: I was upfront and direct with him. Thats the language so many Aspies solely understand.

You forgot to mention steroids.

You would benefit by eating healthier and getting in better shape....

Your personality might be able to be worked on if you take medication or CBT... Or learn from people that are successful with women.

That haircut really needs to go.

You look fine otherwise.

It's just that haircut and your attitude.

Specific advice: your facial features/layout are in themselves quite normal. You seem to have that piercing blue eyes thing going on which is pretty popular across the board, and your hair looks a pleasant texture.

You look young. Sometimes I think it's a thing Aspie's have - a certain naivete - or it might be the weight, it might be the boyish haircut. Boyish works better when you're older. It's that weird thing where, for a while, people are trying to look older, then the flip happens and people start trying to look younger.

You might want to lose weight. There are plenty of men bigger than you in relationships, but you might find it helps, if only in making you feel more confident and content with yourself. I like your hair, but I've no idea what the 'in' haircut would be for men of your age in your corner of the world, and the present one is boyish.

By far the most important, and probably hardest: lose the attitude. Stop thinking like you do, seeing women like you do. It is outright unattractive, and wrong on many levels. Self-pity, self-loathing, hatred of women. By and large, these qualities are not going to be a woman's 'type'.

Or who knows - maybe it really is just wall-to-wall a***holes in your town, and you're doing your best to fit in. Still, as long as you're happy.

General advice (that I would give to anyone) before you even go out looking for a girlfriend or boyfriend: ask yourself - what do I want a romantic relationship for? What do I want from a romantic relationship? From a romantic partner? To all these - why? What don't I want? Why? What is the general likelihood of these? What do I have to offer, in my character, a romantic relationship? What am I willing to happily, non-resentfully sacrifice to be in a relationship, and where are the lines I would draw that I will not cross?

Get to know who you are, and either be comfortable with it, or work to change til you are. Be aware of your faults. Be good at and happy with being alone.

Girls probably think you're cute but maybe not fully dating material (for the hotties) until you lose some weight and I think it helps with hair gel if you're going for the hotties.

So far it looks like I have two options. I can either a) become a scumbag or b) do nothing. Pretty damn bleak.

Become? Any man who thinks their only option in getting into a romantic relationship is to 'become a scumbag' is pretty much already there.

Stop making like you want advice until you actually do. In future, stick to 'can I have confirmation and support that I am correct in my worst ideas about women?'.

You talking down to me? Really?

kid, get some help. for the sake of yourself, for the sake of the people in your life, for the sake of us here--just go talk to a counselor or psychologist or something, and stop spewing undeserved hostility at people here who are trying to help you.

I don't know. Am I? I don't intend to. I'm trying to be honest with you, and get you to be honest. You ask for help or advice, but have a ready sneer to dismiss anything that runs counter to your worldview. This sggests you don't want help or advice, but rather confirmation of your beliefs, which all tend to the negative. Which makes the requests disingenous. Which isn't nice.

I see someone who doesn't want help, at least not at the expense of exerting some effort themselves. I see someone who wants things to change, but doesn't see the need for change in themselves, except to 'become a scumbag'. I mean, you're hardly a delight at the moment - isn't that working for you? Aren't the ladies flocking to you when you treat them how you clearly see them?

You've got problems, yeah? I mean, low self esteem, at least. But from your carrying on, you seem content to wallow in it. Which I understand. But don't put that BS on women.

I've got every reason to hate the whores. All the fish in the sea are either dead or polluted, and that's a fact. Even if I do find the mystical Ms. Right, she'll probably have her own dirty agenda and f**k me over. I'm not dealing with that, because nobody f***s with me. Ever.

My counselor's an old windbag who's only in it for the money.

You seem to ignore any other advice. Fixed that hair yet?

The reason why you have so much trouble with women is bloody obvious to everyone on this site! Your attitude stinks! I can't imagine anyone finding your personality the least bit attractive. Frankly, your attitude towards women is so deplorable you are only a post away from being permanently banned from this site for your obnoxious remarks towards women. You do realise there is a site rule against sexism? Your post alone above is enough to get you banned. If you can't get your head around this then you will have to find another site that is more accepting of your sick misogyny.