Why women lose the dating game

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The question is, do they prefer white matter or grey matter?

http://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/20 ... 100142.htm

The original article posted by OP is a bit smug in my opinion. I mean isn't it just a attempt to present something that has existed forever, as a new phenomenon with modern clothes and attitudes ?



"Now, I had heard the WACS recruited old maids for the war."

I also find it hard to muster much sympathy for people who experience relationship problems due to miscalculation or bad bets. That's sort of self inflicted then. You win some... Especially being a member of a group (ASD) that is practically issued relationship obstacles at birth.

My own feeling is that once you reach maturity, if love ever appears, then go after it with everything you have and hold on tight. Do not hold anything back. The worst thing you can do is let it walk away, for it may be a very long time indeed before it happens again. True love, the genuine article is a rare occurance.

Love btw has nothing to do with a persons financial portfolio. Maybe some confuse romantic partnership with love. There is gray area between them but they are not in fact the same thing.

And do Zombies celebrate Thanksgiving ?

If brainz are like turkeys, the white matter would be fought over, and if that were the case, perhaps only female brainz would be served at a zombie Thanksgiving.

huh? the winning the lottery?

it wouldn't make thins worse. to women I would apear to have a high paying job, own my own house, have mutple cars. funny, nice, kind, confident. the only thing i would lack is looks which the surgeys could fix. so then you have a good personality, well off handsome man. while not 100% it would certianly jump my odds I suspect I would get a whole lot more responses.

if thats what you meant. o.O

what your saying is, pretty much, living a millionaire life. which is not true. half the people that are millionaires go crazy and smoke a lot. you should read people magazine or celebrity gossip. you really wanna be like that? it gets very depressing after years of being stressed. also picking like the lottery is not it. thats mean i have to scratch myself for a woman just to get lucky? you pretty much gain what it is, dignity? is that the word? yeah that is it. DIGNITY.

Youngest son, age 20, is getting there [still recovering from many years of excruciating neurological pain.] He doesn't make much money at all, is a very decent person, and is good looking in a scruffy, Jim Morrison type way. Oh, and the closing for his tiny little house in Pueblo is scheduled for September 15 and he will own the place free and clear in less than 2 years [paying us back for money he is borrowing for rehab of home. He did not have enough money for both the home and the money to fix it up]

so why does it get harder for women as they get older? is it really accurate or what?

huh. i wouldn' live a millionaire life. it would enable me to live a middle class life. I don't know where you get that statistics? there are so many millionares. . people magazine and celebrity gossip are not good sources of information. what stress would I have non. I would have enough money to provide all my needs, so no stress from that. depression. I am depressed now so can only get better.

not sure what you mean by the rest. o.O if i was to win the lottery I would be alot better off then I am now. i might get a woman, but either way i'd be able to buy things to give me temp happiness and hang with my friends more. I would be able to message women on dating sites cause I would meet their demands of (decent job, car, home) .

whatever floats that thought mind of yours. not judging your habits of doings.

This article makes a lot of assumptions and some sweeping generalizations !

(1) All women want alpha males : Nonsense ! Truth be told, alpha males can also be as*holes. Not always but at least some of the time. I, personally, would much rather go with a guy who was a beta male - a sweet, pleasant-natured man who was easy to get along with and easy to love (especially the latter) ! No amount of money or alpha status would make it easy or happy to live with someone with a personality disorder or serious character flaws.

(2) Where a man is when a woman first meets him is where he is always going to be or will always be. In other words, a man's position in the social ladder will never go up or go down, it will always be at that exact same rung where he was when he meets his woman : What BS ! !

I am sure that many people have anecdotal evidences to the contrary - about how their sister's nephew-by-marriage's brother-in-law's cousin's daughter got together with a bum on the street when she was 20, but how now, 15 years later, they are living it up in a high rise in Manhattan. Now this may be a bit extreme, but it illustrates the point that partners can and do motivate each other to either move up the ladder, or to fall into the very same pit that they themselves infest. Such as a drug addict ex-con boyfriend that ends up turning a "good girl" into a fellow druggie, or a woman who nagged her husband into a gambling problem, because he could find no other way to satisfy his wife's constant demand for more and more and more money.

(3) A woman - even a highly educated, well paid professional - needs a man to make her life whole / complete / blah blah blah : Misogynistic, much ?

(4) A woman needs a man to produce a baby and complete her family : More misogyny, again. No, she doesn't. There are several billion Homo sapiens wandering the Planet today. The species is not to going to go extinct because some women chose not to reproduce. On that same note, ever wondered why an "elderly bachelor" is an object of utter respect while an "elderly spinster" is an object of scorn / ridicule ? Why is only the woman assumed to "be on the shelf" simply because no one asked to marry her ? Maybe no woman wanted to marry the "bachelor", either ! HYPOCRITES, BAH !

And, even if you assume that some women can and do long for babies to "complete" their families, well, then, isn't that why sperm banks exist ?

In a nutshell -- if it was my daughter, I wouldn't want her to pick a man just because he is a 6'2", handsome, Economics professor, making a 6 figure income, an obvious "catch" who gets emails signed off in kisses by desperate single female colleagues. I would want her to pick her best friend who was pleasant, easy going, loved her, who had a plan for his life and a means to achieve that plan. Yeah, sure, it would be great if he was already a handsome, rich professional when they met, but I would not to want her to dismiss anyone who has the potential, who has good, solid character, and a great personality, ESPECIALLY BECAUSE (and I will be telling her this repeatedly) where he is *today* may be *very different* from where he may well be 10 years, marriage, and a couple of kids, later.

BTW, I didn't know that academicians, even fully tenured academicians, made 6 figures ! I always thought that professors had an average income so this is quite the revelation for me !

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well pretty much the parents decide what they want out of their kids and their choices affect their decisions on what she/he believes from the parent. parents usually have a better way of making things sense then their teen/adult trying to find that person. yep your correct hismom.

Why is this so important to women why???

I'm not a woman, but the answer seems simple to me: it's more predictable and therefore safer. If you're going to be a partner in someone's life, you'd want to know where that life is going, right? Because wherever it's going, you're going with it! There is never any certainty, but someone with a good plan is a safer bet than someone without. (HisMom didn't actually say a "good" plan, but I think we can infer that a guy with a life plan involving robbing banks until he's rich is not what she meant.)

Girlfriend here did mention that she would never stick around a man who showed no plan in their life or any intention to act on his plan. This could indicate a lack of confidence in that man.

I don't plan past a few months . I prefer to try to enjoy my life rather then spending my whole life slaving away to me some job goal.

Why I'm going have to kill myself. I can't be that society working hard and dedicating my whole life to be a doctor or a judge or etc

Confidence is thinking you can do something while not having a plan could just mean you don't want to do that thing

Makes me wonder why I put of killing myself doesn't seem like the problem will change as I don't want to conform to society and society is materialistic