Is being over 25 too old to still be living at home?

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I'm in the "live with mother" boat. I get SSI and I do chores around the house. I pay for my bills (doctor copays, my treats, etc.) I would like to get a job but unlike most people, I didn't work when I was a teen and I'm afraid potential employers don't want to hire someone with no experience. I also have no car which makes it more difficult.. I feel kinda weird since most people my age already live on their own and a car.

Yes 26 is too old to be living with your parents........however I lived with my parents till I was 29

If they are happy with it and you are happy with it what is the problem, there is no right or wrong.

No it's pretty common for people in their mid 20s to still be at home... I don't think it's considered that strange really this day and age. I'm 24 and live at home, although I have a bachelors degree and my first "real" job beginning my career. I do wanna move out soon, I could afford it on my own, but I am trying to stick it out as long as I can because it's soo easy to save money this way. Room is free, food is free, cable & Internet is free.. Not too shabby. Oh I should maybe mention that my mom & step dad don't really want me to leave either because I do most of the yard work and shoveling in the winter along with other various chores they hate doing. So we have a symbiotic thing goin on lol
Anyway I'm sure some women would have a problem with it but I haven't really dealt w that.. I meet a lot of women my age living at home too. Most of them are just sensible tryna save money like me.

I was always concerned that at 29 I was "too late" in moving out but the girl I am dating didn't move on her own until 31. She did live with friends before but only when she worked on the other side of the country. The more I learn the more I realize that late 20s is becoming the new standard at least for singles.

It does seem that way, doesn't it?

In 1981, I left home. I was 20.

There's not nearly as much shame in twentysomethings staying with their parents as there used to be back before the 1990s. There's still the inevitable tensions, though--since twentysomethings are adults and don't want to be told what to do like kids.

I would save, save, save, save, especially if parents don't charge rent.

My mother charged me about $120 a month after I got my first job out of high school. that was about 1/3 to 1/4 of the rent back in the early 80s.

Try to put a positive spin on it. "Yeah, times are tough, so I moved in to help my parents." Try the dutiful son angle.

good sort of news is I started going back to school last week, community college

Wait... so girls don't mind if you live at home? That was the whole reason I moved out. To impress girls.
Did I do it for nothing then?

No.

One time I dated this 24 year old girl, I admitted that I still lived at home, acted real embarrassed, then she said she said lived at home anyway. Same boat. She got embarrassed because she didn't drive and I did, I got embarrassed because she was in uni and I wasn't. We had a night of being embarrassed and never saw each other again.

Anyway when it came to the living situation, same boat for both of us but supposing she didn't live at home? Then it would look really bad. Nowadays many twentyager men and women live at home but many don't. So should I encounter a girl who doesn't live at home, we'll be at the same level.

But here's the best part, since a fair few twentagers still live at home, should I start dating one who still lives at home, me having my own place will seem really impressive and best of all, we'll be one step closer to cohabiting. After all, rent is expensive so why would she want to pay rent on her own? If she has her own place, she might like it there better or have a long lease.

well a Dating Coach I talked to recently made me feel better about this, because I wouldn't want to put my dating life on hold

where does one find a dating coach ?

Just so long as the dating coach isn't a PUA.

32 and have always lived with my mother. It's embarrassing and makes me feel really bad, but I'd need a stable, full-time job before even considering moving out and so far, I've never had that.

I would if I could, but with the current economic situation it's impossible. Rent has gone to insane levels, a small student apartment is ?400 - ?450 a month ( roughly 550 - 600 dollars ). The only way to pay for both university and rent is to get a part-time job. Now I do not mind working 20 hours a week next to 40 hours a week of university, but not a single employer is willing to hire me. Employers cannot discriminate against a lot of things, but when it comes to something like autism you are just royally f*cked. I write a nice formal letter denoting my strengths and the reason why the job would suit me, they would show interest and invite me for an interview and then they never even contact me back. They can smell social awkwardness from a mile away and it's a prime turn-off for employers. They rather have someone much less competent and much less hard working than someone who is socially awkward.

This has happened so many times now I have pretty much given up looking for a job, by the time I finish university and can finally move out most people have married, have kids, a house and a car. I will hopefully have a good job ( R&D is one of the few sectors where autism is welcomed ) at the end of this but absolutely zero experience living on my own and zero experience with dating or social interaction. While others have settled down and started a family of their own I will just be starting out from scratch as a person in his late 20s with the social development of a teenager. I feel like I will pretty much be the laughing stock when I try to get involved in romance at that age. I also feel like a lot of women will try to take advantage of my economic position once I have a good job instead of wanting to get to know me for genuine interest. It's so frustrating to pretty much miss all the possible boats of life because of autism, despite working hard and trying to make things better.