Do people with Asperger's remain virgins for life?

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No.

You just need to put in the right effort to make a relationship work. Some Aspies are even married and have children.

Thanks. Means a lot to me. That, and I have my longtime dream of moving to Los Angeles still around.

Its really easy to get sex if you want it. You just have go out and learn to talk social and read body language. Just keep engrossing yourself in social situations and forcing yourself to have conversation with women.

Increasingly I find that there are a lot more women out there who actually have a bit of an aspie or autistic fetish. They are turned on by a guy who can talk really intensely and intelligent about things, is a bit nerdy.

Primary thing to do, go outside, go to where people are. Just force yourself to be social. You have to break yourself a little bit. Break yourself out of habits, overload yourself until you become desensitized and can handle more. It just takes more effort than neurotypical people.

Also, get a sense of style, dress well, be well groomed, be in good shape, be healthy. Instinctive sexual desire comes a lot from the other person appearing very very healthy. There is an association between sexiness and healthiness. Women want healthy mates.

Also stop watching porn. All porn. Learn to use your imagination only. Learn to create sexual vibe with your imagination, not consume from other sources. Get to the point where you can turn yourself on more through imagination than any video ever could. Because it is 'you' that needs to carry that sexual vibe, purely of your own creation. You can't turn a girl on by flipping out your phone and showing her a porn video. You must use your imagination, work it into your personality and identity. All sexual vibe and energy you experience should come entirely from you.

Usually a scenario for an aspie.

What part?

The actual horror part or the part where he sits alone all night with this horror scenario in his head?

Heck man, anymore I am getting afraid of hitting up on women, if they just do not like the looks of you they can cry harassment or rape or what ever and ruin your life, even if your proven not guilty of it. their special rights ruins mens equal rights.

(example)
Man held in reported Forestville rape may be cleared
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And women are getting vicious about it, check out this video, the men are there to talk about their own equal rights, and these feminist are angry about it. their so unfair to men, if it was the other way around the men would get arrested for even complaining. women do not honestly want equal rights, they want special rights, and their not going to stop till they get it (which they already have been getting).

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The fear of rejection and ridicule part!

to be entirely honest

this is why drugs exist, to break your mind out of the unhealthy habitations of thought in social situations, go to some raves

You're only 21! Bide your time! I know NTs of your age who haven't had sex or even a relationship yet. I wasn't too bothered about a relationship when I was 21. Perhaps in 2-3 years time you might start to feel like you should be in a relationship (although there is no law to say you should, but you might just start to feel a bit more like ''why aren't I in a relationship yet?'' type of thing). I started to feel like that last year and the beginning of this year, and I was getting cross when people said ''you'll meet someone soon!'' I imagined I would be in my 40's before I meet the right person, and kept on worrying about it. But a few weeks ago I did meet someone and we're still dating and things are going well, and he loves my unique ways and he hopes so much that we will stay together and get married, and I tell him that I'm prepared for that. So just when I thought my life was going nowhere and there was nobody anywhere to date, to cut a long story short, it's finally happened! So you never know what good stuff is waiting for you around the corner. A good person like you will meet somebody who deserves to have you. Just don't rush it, wait a few years and it will come.

I've been married for 27 years and have four kids. Before I married my husband, I was married to this douchebag jackass for about a year then I divorced him. I married him when I was 18 and married my husband now when I was 22. I lost my virginity when I was 15, for a bet that my best friend and I had with each other - who could lose theirs first and with an actually hot guy. I've been out with lots of guys and had pretty much all the sex I wanted, when I wanted it. No, I'm not great looking, nor am I a ho, I just looked at sex the way guys I knew looked at it. If a guy goes out looking to get laid, that's fine and dandy, but if a girl does it then people call her a skank. That's unfair and untrue.

I've been suspecting that my youngest son has mild AS as well. I've noticed a lot of traits in him that I have. He's got ADHD and is completely deaf in one ear, but it's only recently that I've been fairly sure he's got a touch of AS. He's 19 and he got his first girlfriend last winter. She was living here with him and then a couple months ago they moved out together. He's got a good job now and they are doing fine.

I know another kid with more severe AS who is married and has been for about five years. He's in his 20's.

Oh, is that all?
Really?

Im 47 now and Ive only had 4 girlfriends and they all practically hooked up with me cos I have no idea how to talk to girls and still to this day extremely shy and quiet around them. The same goes for my sexual encounters, they have happened very infrequently and usually when everybody is very drunk or maybe as you said pity sex. I honestly think that I will never have a long term relationship and as for kids, I just dont know how to talk to them or play. Its all very frustrating and really gets me down quite a lot and for many years I thought it was just me till I realised there were other people like me. I wish I had known about aspergers when I was your age and it would have answered a lot of questions, you are only 21 and in a strong position to get help and plenty of time to have girlfriends. Good luck mate and I hope you find someone but it will happen.

It's a good thing pity sex actually exists. You have to be decent looking to get any of it, though.

In b4 the usual "beauty is in the eye of the beholder FFS" comment.

Well, that's one way.

I do agree it's really easy to get sex if you want it, though. The latter part of metalab's statement is certainly easier said than done for many of the people here.

IMO it's much easier to email people on dating sites/personal ads etc in order to arrange hooking up to get laid if that's your thing. Way easier for aspic's to communicate via text vs. face to face interactions.

Damn I never got the memo to this magical world where getting laid is easy. It must be a different world than the one I live in. If you told me that girls don't like sex then based on the world I see around me, I'd have half a mind to believe it.

(Yes, I am aware that the proper reality is that women don't want to have sex....with me, but since my world is based on my perceptions/realities, then they are the same thing)