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^I agree with waiting a while into it to disclose that...then no potentially inaccurate sterotypes getting in the way of how they see you...if that makes sense.

They always ask why I've been off work though. I don't want to lie about it.

So being the contrary person that I am, I decided to put in my heading that I'm autistic. An experiment on my part.
Well ... I went from receiving a constant stream of likes and messages to zero. Nothing. Nada.

My conclusion. People are scared of people with autism.

So be it. They can take their big fish catches and go f**k themselves.

Too many people when they hear the word "autism," think "Rain Man" -- that's all they know about it. Sorry, androbot01, that really sucks. Don't give up, though. It may take time, but maybe you'll connect with the right person who understands and sees you for all you have to offer.

Thanks VegetableMan. I think my path lies in independence. It does suck because my whole life all I wanted was a family, But ...

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So I will embrace solitary and see what I can do with it.

I'm embraced solitude for quite some time, now. It always seems when I'm actively seeking someone, I don't have much luck. Occasionally someone comes along when I'm content with being alone. Maybe that's they key -- you have to seem happy and centered without someone in your life.

At 44 your decision is understandable.

Ooh ... nice gut punch. Well done.

32 is not that far off. But someone with your wit will likely do well.

Men are not good at faking emotions, so many of us don't try, In addition many of us think that our smiles are god damn hideous, which I personally know to be true. I look much better with a stoic glance than anything else, and I've spent countless times experimenting.

Additionally manufacturing a smile is a very hard thing to do sometimes because it feels like we're conforming to the world's standard (I.E, lying to get ahead) rather than pure honesty... This is probably why some aspies find it difficult to smile as well, putting up that false image can be an affront to a person's honest nature. Great sociopaths and liars hone the ability of portraying emotions that aren't really there, so people especially good at manipulation learn to master these techniques.

Woman are probably better at faking emotions, but we have been conditioned to do so since birth. One of the most praiseworthy things in a little girl is her making others happy.



Really, do tell.


It occurs to me that some of you are taking offense because you think I am bashing men. Be assured if I had access to the women's pictures I would happily bash them too.

I'm sorry if you took my post as bitter or stingy, as I took zero offence to this topic and thought that It would be a good topic to talk about the differences between the sexes, which i thought would help!

Emotions in males needs to come as natural as possible, we need results to make us happy, we can't just really pluck a smile out of the blue, it needs a reason. It can be done but I don't think it will hold a candle to how a woman does it. It's as you say... they've trained all their lives perfecting that smile, and I also think it's something that benefits the children because it portrays the illusion of warmth and safety, this probably contrasts with the male, who will have to do things to guarantee warmth and safety (our bodies emphasize strength for a reason). It really highlights such a complementary role between the sexes, so when a male tries to pull it off, it just feels awkward and wrong, thus you won't have many males trying to pull it off.

I am going to try to be more like this. Sometimes I just want to cut the smile out of my face like the Joker.

Umm no, I wasn't punching at all- really, I am already giving up, and would certainly give up at 40.

My post really meant "I understand where you're coming from".

I took that the wrong way then, sorry. Was feeling a little defensive, but am a little more balanced now.

However, I think that you at 32 and me at 44 are neither one too old.

To make a typical family at 44? It's possible only if you wanna adopt children or finding a single father.

"Too old" is relative to what you want.

For example, I've started dating too old; most people start to learn these stuff at 16.

Yeah, starting a family for me isn't going to happen unless I adopt, which also isn't going to happen. Frankly I don't think I'm parenting material.
However, for you, as a man, there really is no age limit to when you can produce children.