Online dating I only attract low value women.

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Why do they message me if they don't care? To waste my time?

And then there's the hours of effort I put into writing thoughtful messages to people who never respond. Should I just message everyone with "hi" in the future?

No, because they still won't respond.

I guess I should just admit I will never be loved by someone who cares about my hobbies or interests, probably never even meet anyone who cares about my hobbies and interests. I actually see profiles written by women who claim to care about the same things, and they ignore me the same as everyone else. I guess I am scum. I guess I should just be happy that I got a couple of lazy messages from women I don't really find very attractive. I guess that's all I deserve in life and nothing more.

That's my feeling.

Just makes me feel bad about myself that the only attention I can get is from people who want to use me.

It seems kind of hypocritical and hurtful to label someone "low value".

Do you even think of women who might read this and feel hurt? This is the reason this place is such a cesspool. Nobody seems to give a s**t about how their words affect people.

Online dating I only attract low value women.

I'm not sure what "nice" is. Does this mean you ask them about themselves? Maybe why they don't put a lot in their profiles or about things that you would want asked about you?

Or does that mean you say "Hi, did you have a good day?".

Personally, I don't like "nice". It's is bland and aggravating and it's pretty much a default when you don't really want to invest anything or risk anything or be the first one to stretch out past the middle. I like being challenged. One of the best conversations I had on a dating site was when someone messaged me and said they found me fascinating and were really interested until I dropped an F-bomb at the end of the profile.

...so I wrote them back and challenged them on that line of thinking.

Misspellings and typos irritate me too, but if you never compromise a little bit in the initial stages you will find yourself forever alone. People have different priorities in life and when you are talking relationships there are so many other things I would rather my SO prioritize than grammar, spelling and punctuation to be perfectly honest.

Maybe there is something that women are seeing [or not seeing] in your profile that is turning off the ones who put more of themselves out there. If you are consulting people who already know you, those people may not be able to give you an accurate assessment.

I read every woman's profile and if I'm interested I (get ready, are you sitting down for this?) ASK THEM QUESTIONS BASED ON WHAT THEY WROTE. Because THAT'S THE WAY ONLINE DATING WORKS. Its basic courtesy and a pretty f*****g simple thing to do. People who can't be bothered, or are too stupid, are LOW VALUE in internet dating terms. If you take off your demonisation hat for a second, it's pretty simple to understand, really.

It's like a slap in the face that I put literally hours of effort into writing a profile, choosing photos, uploading them, getting it critiqued by dispassionate observers, and the only people who message me can't take two minutes to pick out just one thing I wrote and ask me about it?

Posts like this are why people don't take the time to spell or punctuate correctly. They also show why niceness is a dying trend. Bravo. At least you know how to spell and punctuate correctly. I guess that's what matters. But if I see somebody typing in "leet speak," I had better do the wise thing and not talk to that person. I would hope you'd do the same thing. How much time a person puts into what they type and how they type tells a lot about them.

Also, don't feel too bad, Jerry.

Posts like this are why people don't take the time to spell or punctuate correctly. They also show why niceness is a dying trend. Bravo. At least you know how to spell and punctuate correctly. I guess that's what matters. But if I see somebody typing in "leet speak," I had better do the wise thing and not talk to that person. I would hope you'd do the same thing. How much time a person puts into what they type and how they type tells a lot about them.

Also, don't feel too bad, Jerry.

Wait... you get messages? Must be nice

should people be valued like on market O_O? is that what capitalism does...?

Yes.



Well...that is kinda a feature of the autistic spectrum conditions...

...it's possible you come off like a jerk when you message women, and that's why they don't message you back.

It's just a theory.

Just because you so carefully crafted and manipulated something to "look just so" it doesn't mean you are entitled to attention. But, actually, it offers some insight as to why those you may perceive as more engaging may simply skip over it.

When I made my profile, yes I spent time and yes I put a lot of myself into it... but I didn't spend hours on it. I grabbed a few photos that represented me- one that was very recent and several from various places and activities- I often put a recent one. I would randomly add something to my profile if i thought of something funny and people who knew me said it was much like having a conversation with me rather than like a carefully constructed advertisement of myself.

The word "fake" is easy to bring to mind if you spend too much time on a profile. You also end up feeling entitled to a specific kind of attention. You are not

Just because you so carefully crafted and manipulated something to "look just so" it doesn't mean you are entitled to attention. But, actually, it offers some insight as to why those you may perceive as more engaging may simply skip over it.

I would randomly add something to my profile if i thought of something funny and people who knew me said it was much like having a conversation with me