So many parents' antics piss me off.

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I hate it when parents put their convenience above their children's webbbeing, and saying things like "You have to eat this falaffel because it's good for you", instead of letting them choose something they like better that's just as good for them. The government gives (a lot of) parents money to support their kids' needs, not to support their kids a little bit but put their own needs first. I also hate parents who spend the allowances the government gives them for their children on themselves or other people or spending the allowance they get for one child on another child as well as the allowance they get for that other child.

Just another prime example of why condoms are one of our greatest inventions.

If we let Billy (girlfriend's 10 year old aspie son) eat whatever he wanted rather than what was good for him, he would NEVER eat any protein. Just pasta, french fries, and perogies. Somethings he simply can't eat because of their texture, so there is no way we would force him to eat them. He will eat steak, burgers, and chicken, so we tell him that if he wants his carbs, he has to eat protein first. That way, he gets to eat what he likes, and he eats food his body needs to keep him alive and healthy.

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I know a child who is not on the spectrum and who doesn't have sensory issues. Since this child will only eat chips and noodles with just butter, that is what they give him (along with some other junk food). He is not overweight but looks extremely healthy. I do think this is a form of abuse.

The OP didn't say give the child what he wanted but to give the child other options of healthy food. I think that is a good idea. We do that with our child. My child is still underweight but we are working on that. The doctor stated to give him protein shakes everyday. Ones that do taste really good with ice cream in them and peanut butter. She told me to stay away from the protein gainers for adults due to the iron content and high vitamin intake. 2uk was right about that one.

I don't force my kids to eat anything.

But I won't do short order cooking, either. There are only so many minutes in the day and I have to allocate them carefully, based on the well being of EVERY member of the family.

Sometimes my kids feel I've made that choice unfairly. I can't help how they feel about it, I can only do my best. Every member of the family matters and deserves fair consideration.

And that happens to include me

I know a child who is not on the spectrum and who doesn't have sensory issues. Since this child will only eat chips and noodles with just butter, that is what they give him (along with some other junk food). He is not overweight but doesn't look that healthy. I think they were tired of fighting so they gave in.

The OP didn't say give the child what he wanted but to give the child other options of healthy food. I think that is a good idea. We do that with our child. My child is still underweight but we are working on that. The doctor stated to give him protein shakes everyday. Ones that do taste really good with ice cream in them and peanut butter. She told me to stay away from the protein gainers for adults due to the iron content and high vitamin intake. 2uk was right about that one.

All sorts of fruits and vegetables have the necessary vitamins and proteins.

And if say they have a bad reaction to the taste of say...cauliflower, you can give them vitamin supplements so they are healthy.

I myself vomit at the taste of cauliflower.

Say for instance your child doesn't like carrots. You can delve into the fruit aspect to find something there or vitamin supplements.

You get the idea.

Me...if allowed I'd probably only eat junk food but I'd balance it.

I can only speak for myself I'm addicted to healthy food. if anything, I eat too much fruit and veg. One major addition is OJ. Basically if you are living with me and like orange juice I suggest getting a fridge with a lock on it.

I so rarely eat junk food, but I used to. It took a while to wean myself off it, but after you do you no longer really crave it. Most people are not at that stage, even if they don't eat it every day.

Ana, I do want to say, btw, that your thread title really is, well, insulting. I bristle every time I see it. I understand that it feels like an "antic" from your perspective, but very few parents are truly selfish and certainly we're not trying to play mindgames with our kids. Most of us are just trying to hold it together and get through the day. You have no idea how exhausting this job is. So try to have a little bit of understanding when a parent makes a choice that is for their own convenience. If they never did that, they might simply become completely undone some day and that, to be sure, would be the far worst thing for the kids. Like I said when I posted above, every member of the family counts, and it all has to be balanced.

We can't pick how others raise their childern. It would be nice somedays but we can't. Unless a child is being abused or neglected there isn't much we can do about it. As for the "goverment" giving money to help raise kids I haven't seen alot of that my youngest child has a lot of needs due to his level of autism but they are all paid for out of my pocket as well as anything my older son needs who is nt. Maybe it's because in New Mexico it takes 8yrs to get any aid and because of the nature of my husbands job we have moved at lest once every two years for the last 6 yrs. Maybe it's because once we had a kid that needed more of everything then a average kid we stoped having childern so we could take the best care of the two we already had. Unless your looking in to the bank acounts and tracking every penny spent shopuld you even know who's spending what on which kid or themselfs. As far as what somes child is eating unless it's paint chips and catfood because this is all that is offered I'd have to say this is none of your bees wax. Someone intcated that you are a new parent maybe this what this is all about it's easy to mother baby by what ever book you pick but once that kid gets older they laugh at your book and if your kids are like mine just may put it in the catbox. DW's right most of us are just trying to hang on and get threw what ever today tosses at us.Me I'm trying to hold on with what ever I got left at the end of everyday. Until someone is willing to come in to my house and cook,cleaning and deal with the newest meltdown/lastest quirk as well as the last minute bake sales and forgoten homework. They better well keep what ever they have to say about how my kids are being cared for to themselfs.

With my stepmom being from the Philippines and my Dad a Canadian like myself, I had more variety in what foods I ate.My stepmom made really good stirfys, noodles, springrolls, and various Filipino desserts.My dad cooked regular Canadian food.My favorite is the springrolls and the stirfry.I like rice with soy sauce and butter.I have also been to the Philippines and tried various foods there along with their famous roast pig.