what is the deal with bipolar girls

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I finally picked up the wrong girl and I'm now feeling like I've got a ticking time bomb on my hands. She looks like natalie portman, but likes me WAY too much for someone I just met and is way too forward. I'm starting to get creeped out by her desperation. I shouldn't have had sex with her after she told me she made a pro/con list of having sex with me, but it's hard to turn down very attractive women. Even though I told her this isn't serious and she agreed with me, I'm not feeling like this is really the case in her head

So what do I do? Do I believe her that this is just casual or do I get the hell out of dodge before she starts the depression cycle? I feel like a god damn idiot for bringing this upon myself.

Some girls are just clingy and needy. May not have anything to do with her being bipolar. If your feeling it's not a good idea, your getting bad vibes and you're not really into her, get the Hell out of dodge and fast.

Go ahead, have sex with her, take advantage of her. Just don't get all angry when she goes after you for hurting her. You're knowingly getting involved with her while thinking she might be bi-polar, and calling her a ticking time bomb. After this, it would be unfair to use the fact that she might be bi-polar against her. It will be on you.

Watch out for these things:

* Her driving a car while on some sort of sedative... with you in her car
* Fridge contents: Diet Coke, jell-o, soy milk, some cheese abominations. No real food. That's because bipolar comes with a bonus eating disorder which can cause them to gain and lose weight dramatically.
* Her telling you she loves you, with tears of sincerity in her eyes, after a few weeks of dating.
* Her mother being borderline insane (if inherited).
* Acts of self-compromise (taking drugs, cutting) used as means of emotional blackmail.

Last edited by monsterland on 25 Apr 2010, 5:01 am, edited 3 times in total.

You don't sound like you respect her very much, so I think you should end it now before things get really messy.

I don't think you have 'taken advantage' of her, if she was of sound mind when you started dating; people do have to take responsibility for their own actions. That said, if there's a large age difference or she was obviously manic at the time, then you should feel bad.

There's no real easy way to break up with someone. I guess you could always say that you have work etc.. The good thing is, if she's very clingy from the word go, she might get bored of you as quickly and move on to someone else. Perhaps this will just run its course (have you any male friends that may be looking for a girlfriend?).

Even if the break up does end up a total disaster, people do get over things eventually. If you are worried about her reaction at all, try and ask a friend of hers to keep an eye out for her. I think you should make yourself scarce after the break though; having an ex around can be very distressing and give false hope.

Be like her, make a pro/con list.
Omit emotions.
Only actions matter.
Maybe a flow chart.
There are many possibilities.
Serious post.

My immediate reaction was that that is Borderline Personality rather than BiPolar. Its common for the diagnosis to be one but the problem be the other, and its also common as a co-morbid situation.

Check out the articles on this page: http://www.bpdfamily.com/tools/articles2.htm

If you think this girl could be BPD, I suggest running far and fast. I would hate to offend anyone, but people with BPD are the most manipulative, craftiest people I have ever come across and there is a tendency to prey on those who are socially inept.

You know, I had a very similar situation about a year ago. I met a girl online, and went on a date with her. She was very physical even during the first date; touching my hand within minutes of meeting me, kissing me on the lips multiple times throughout the date, and things progressed to heavy petting right on the first date. The only difference is that I ended up stopping things, and not going all the way. That was also when she told me she had bipolar disorder. (The sex happened on later dates.) The possible red flags that indicated the bipolar were very quick physical intimacy and her jumping very quickly between conversation topics. So how did the whole thing end? She dumped me after two months. It's all described in greater detail here: http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt99197.html

So what do you do? Take the high road; be honest with the girl! While it may be hard to turn down sex, one orgasm isn't worth inflicting pain another person that she may remember for life. Tell her that you're not looking for long-term commitment at this point in your life, take responsibility and apologize for any negligence on your part, and let her decide if she wants to stay or not. I did the same with the bipolar girl I dated, and even though she dumped me, I'm glad I did the honest thing, and avoided leading her on, as well as being in a relationship that I had reservations about.

Being aggressive doesn't mean she's bipolar or any other psychiatric disorder.

Maybe she's physically needy, not emotionally needy.

That said, if you feel uncomfortable around her, then just break it off. Try to be nice about it, though. Maybe most of the problem is yours? (I can't pinpoint anything she did in your post that was so bad.)

What's wrong with a pro and con list? It's kind of silly but why would you be this rattled by it?

lol wut

find someone else if shes such a problem then, it's obviously not hard for you

She obviously is in love with you or very obsessed. If you end it you owe it to her to be honest. tell her you are breaking up with her. and do NOT, i repeat do NOT use her for sex as some have suggested.

That would be wrong and in my book no better then rape. so do the right thing and treat her right.

I think she may have bpd as well. i agree that the symptoms are all there. but that means she has been abused in the past. so be kind when and if you break up with her. don't string her along and for god's sakes be honest with her.

The people who suggested using her for sex should be ashamed of yourselves!! !
I know i am!

What she says is suspect.
What she does is immutable and telling.
Focus on the latter.

I could not agree with you more. I was the victim of a woman with borderline personality disorder, who had left me bankrupt, and left my self respect in tatters. She was able to play me so successfully because of my Asperger's, which I hadn't even heard of at the time.

-Bill, otherwise known as Kraichgauer

Wow, BPD sounds just like the girl I'm kind of seeing right now

Too bad it doesn't say anything about any happy endings for people who have BPD =/ Basically this site just says to let them go ASAP. That doesn't make me feel very good inside.