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forresthouse
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05 Jul 2010, 9:21 pm

I added this to a Topic I posted some week ago. Seing how I haven't got results yet I reask the question. (I hope that's not what the rules meant by spamming)

forresthouse wrote:
Ok, now I need help for that one...
forresthouse wrote:
Lately I've been seeing another girl as friend. That frienship really is precious to me and I fear it ends up with love feelings.
If that happens, things would get complicated since she'd probably understand what's going on and would be highly unlikely to consider me as a potential partner.


The fact that I may be going to have feelings for her, what do I do to avoid it? and if it fails, what to do to deal with such a situation?


I'll accept any answer, don't be shy! :|


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05 Jul 2010, 9:31 pm

Well I don't think that you can just shut off an attraction of romantic interest in someone, unless they do something drastic that upsets you. Perhaps if you have a reason to beleive she is interested in oyu also, just ask her if maybe you would like to go to the movies or something, and move from there. Maybe a dinner date? If she's interested in a romantic relationship she will get the idea and accept. If not, well it doesn't mean you can't be friends, and you can then move on to a different girl.



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05 Jul 2010, 9:31 pm

I'm sorry you didn't get a response before. Sometimes it comes down to timing and the post gets moved off the front page quickly and is less noticeable.
Anyway I think you just take it one step at a time and trust that if you get hurt you will survive. I'm pretty lame at L&D advice. I'm sure there are others who have a better sense about these things.



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05 Jul 2010, 9:33 pm

I've never had any luck trying to stop those kinds of feelings.



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05 Jul 2010, 9:41 pm

Bugzee wrote:
Well I don't think that you can just shut off an attraction of romantic interest in someone, unless they do something drastic that upsets you. Perhaps if you have a reason to beleive she is interested in oyu also, just ask her if maybe you would like to go to the movies or something, and move from there. Maybe a dinner date? If she's interested in a romantic relationship she will get the idea and accept. If not, well it doesn't mean you can't be friends, and you can then move on to a different girl.

The problem lies in the fact that if she learns that I like her, she may not see me the same way she did before and that could be toxic since she doesn't like her life getting complicated.
Another (ex)friend of her made that mistake...

But thank you anyway, I'll consider it.
Any other idea?


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