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PostPosted: Fri Sep 24, 2010 3:31 pm    Post subject: Why is being "weird" so bad? Reply with quote

Anyone stop and wonder, why is it such a serious offense in the world of interaction? Razz
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PostPosted: Fri Sep 24, 2010 3:36 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

People only like the people that they have things in common with.
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PostPosted: Fri Sep 24, 2010 3:43 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

But.... but... who's to say the person they consider weird has nothing in common? Good point though.
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PostPosted: Fri Sep 24, 2010 4:13 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

People are afraid of something different. "Weird" means unpredictable and that can scare NTs, especially because they tend to associate various kinds of weird with violence and/or drugs.

Before I was diagnosed, I was always being asked if I were on drugs (or overhearing people spreading rumors that I was on drugs) when I was not on drugs at all. My brand of weird made people think drugs and that bothered and/or frightened them so they didn't interact with me in friendly, welcoming ways.
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PostPosted: Fri Sep 24, 2010 4:42 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Sparrowrose wrote:
People are afraid of something different. "Weird" means unpredictable and that can scare NTs, especially because they tend to associate various kinds of weird with violence and/or drugs.

Before I was diagnosed, I was always being asked if I were on drugs (or overhearing people spreading rumors that I was on drugs) when I was not on drugs at all. My brand of weird made people think drugs and that bothered and/or frightened them so they didn't interact with me in friendly, welcoming ways.


I don't mean to patronize you, but that must have been hell at times.
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PostPosted: Fri Sep 24, 2010 4:45 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Modern life has made all manner of people very nasty indeed. You can't leave the house without bumping into some ass who mocks you you they can feel better about their miserable NT existence.

Plus NT's are envious of us Aspies like you wouldn't believe. Its frigging poisonous out there and its getting worse. The battle lines between NT's and Aspies is no longer just stories told around the campfires - its all real, it always has been.
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PostPosted: Fri Sep 24, 2010 5:26 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

because people fear what they are too god damn stupid to understand. To put it short, those sheep have a fear of the unknown.
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PostPosted: Fri Sep 24, 2010 7:11 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Well, I sure get tired of being called "weird". I'm sure it's because the lack of predictability causes unease.
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PostPosted: Fri Sep 24, 2010 9:07 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

All people - including NTs, have insecurities about being 'weird' or 'different'. When people see someone apparently even more different than themselves, they seem to get a rush out of telling the 'weird' person what they think about them.
I guess it makes them seem more normal, and helps to heal insecurities.
I don't think being weird is a bad thing - on the contrary, I would be boring if I wasn't weird.
When people tell me I'm weird, I just say, "No, you're just too normal" and walk off. Smile
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PostPosted: Fri Sep 24, 2010 9:36 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

it's a highly primitive and Darwinian response. Rolling Eyes If someone is acting "weird" the primitive brain of "normal" humans, which have barely evolved since prehistoric times, sets off an alarm that says basically, "This person could be/is dangerous. Use extreme caution/run for your life". And yet it is "weird" people who change the world for the better, are usually the most intelligent, gifted, and talented, and keep us all from plummeting into a dreary, coma-inducing existence. Razz
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PostPosted: Fri Sep 24, 2010 11:03 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

lostonearth35 wrote:
it's a highly primitive and Darwinian response. Rolling Eyes If someone is acting "weird" the primitive brain of "normal" humans, which have barely evolved since prehistoric times, sets off an alarm that says basically, "This person could be/is dangerous. Use extreme caution/run for your life". And yet it is "weird" people who change the world for the better, are usually the most intelligent, gifted, and talented, and keep us all from plummeting into a dreary, coma-inducing existence. Razz


Life is already a dreary, coma-inducing existence... for some.
However life is a death inducing experience for everyone.
And taking both comments into consideration....
...
...
... Life is always a death-inducing experience, no matter the individual.

No one is truly equal in life. Only in death is there truly any equality... because death is a very impartial... mistress?

hmm...

I think my attempt at awkward witticisms induced some song ideas within my obviously screwed up head.


I think I should go to the main site of NT congregation, Twitter, and make a fake account just so I can spam my... ahem... observations for all the world to see... and perhaps burst the bubbles of those annoying attention whores on there. Oh hooray for hypocritical humor. Twisted Evil


but really, I tend to take it upon myself to revel the fact I am a very weird person. So what if some may consider it social suicide, I consider it a very... liberating... experience.
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PostPosted: Fri Sep 24, 2010 11:10 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

DemonAbyss10 wrote:

I think I should go to the main site of NT congregation, Twitter, and make a fake account just so I can spam my... ahem... observations for all the world to see... and perhaps burst the bubbles of those annoying attention whores on there. Oh hooray for hypocritical humor. :twisted:


While you're there, just screwing with people to make yourself feel superior, you might as well look some of us up. I'm friends with scores of people on the spectrum through Twitter.
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PostPosted: Fri Sep 24, 2010 11:19 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Sparrowrose wrote:
DemonAbyss10 wrote:

I think I should go to the main site of NT congregation, Twitter, and make a fake account just so I can spam my... ahem... observations for all the world to see... and perhaps burst the bubbles of those annoying attention whores on there. Oh hooray for hypocritical humor. Twisted Evil


While you're there, just screwing with people to make yourself feel superior, you might as well look some of us up. I'm friends with scores of people on the spectrum through Twitter.


Ill do that. You know, feeling superior and all.

oh god, please dont tell me I have been in sarcasm/snark mode this whole entire time. I think I finally caught myself. Oh well, it is quite fun nonetheless when you make fun of people about their droll lives.

but really sparrow, you have no reason to fear, you as well as most people aren't on my acceptable targets list. Its usually reserved for people who need an ego deflation. But yeah, I sometimes take the snark a bit to far, oh well, can't really help it when its the main form of humor that appeals to me.
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PostPosted: Sat Sep 25, 2010 7:46 am    Post subject: Re: Why is being "weird" so bad? Reply with quote

CaptainTrips222 wrote:
Anyone stop and wonder, why is it such a serious offense in the world of interaction? Razz


I see it as a good thing myself, but most NTs are obsessed with conformity - if you don't copy everyone, you don't exist. Pathetic really Rolling Eyes

(notice I said most NTs, as there is a minority who are an exception to this rule)
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PostPosted: Sat Sep 25, 2010 7:58 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Because human society at its core is corrupt and hypocritical. We've all been told to be ourselves and had the exact opposite hammered into us on the outside. A lot of them should be thanking us for giving them a breath of fresh air in their mundane lives. Where else will you find a sheldon cooper anyway? Haha
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