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This person asked me if I was single - twice
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PostPosted: Mon Dec 13, 2010 3:30 pm    Post subject: This person asked me if I was single - twice Reply with quote

I've become friends with this one guy at my community college, and every so often we text each other. He texted me - twice - asking if I was single. Both times I answered in the affirmative.

The second time he asked me that, I asked him if there was any particular reason he was asking. He answered that he liked me too much to tell me. I then replied that that didn't make sense, and asked if he was trying to protect me from something. He then answered that he was just wondering if I was single.

I almost want to tell him that if he's going to ask me out, then he should hurry up and do it already. There has to be a reason he's asking this.
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PostPosted: Mon Dec 13, 2010 3:34 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I guess he is stupified because of your dashing good looks and not already taken Wink
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PostPosted: Mon Dec 13, 2010 3:35 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Do you like him back?
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PostPosted: Mon Dec 13, 2010 3:43 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Wallourdes wrote:
I guess he is stupified because of your dashing good looks and not already taken Wink


If that's the case, then why doesn't he just ask me out? Rolling Eyes

Volodja wrote:
Do you like him back?


If he were to ask me out, then I'd accept his offer. He's nice and decent-looking.
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PostPosted: Mon Dec 13, 2010 4:03 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Descartes wrote:
Wallourdes wrote:
I guess he is stupified because of your dashing good looks and not already taken Wink


If that's the case, then why doesn't he just ask me out? Rolling Eyes


Because he probably is shy or is gathering the courage to do so.

I just saw you are a guy, I don't know if homosexuality is a big issue where you are living and/or studying? If that is the case it might weight along in this issue.
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PostPosted: Mon Dec 13, 2010 4:05 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Wallourdes wrote:
I just saw you are a guy, I don't know if homosexuality is a big issue where you are living and/or studying? If that is the case it might weight along in this issue.


I live in one of the most conservative areas in the country, but it's certainly not an issue for us. We're both members of our school's Gay-Straight Alliance.
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PostPosted: Mon Dec 13, 2010 4:22 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Aww, that's so sweet. It does seem that he's quite infatuated. Wink He probably just needs some time to gather courage or perhaps figure out where to take you to, if you were to say yes. I don't think there's anything to worry about when it comes to other reasons for asking. If you think something could develop from this and if he's into you - good luck. ^^ If it doesn't develop into anything, then it's always nice to have a friend.
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PostPosted: Mon Dec 13, 2010 4:23 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

If you would say yes if he asked then just skip the awkwardness and ask him out yourself. I think this is what he is hoping for.
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PostPosted: Mon Dec 13, 2010 4:42 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Yeah I agree, definitely ask him out yourself. It sounds like he's just very nervous or something and is hoping you will do it
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PostPosted: Mon Dec 13, 2010 4:42 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

You can take the chance if you want but it would be easier if you wait for a few weeks to be sure, but who knows?
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PostPosted: Mon Dec 13, 2010 9:04 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

MidlifeAspie wrote:
If you would say yes if he asked then just skip the awkwardness and ask him out yourself. I think this is what he is hoping for.
I agree, he's wanting you to ask him out for some reason. Ask him out for some coffee or lunch. He sounds like he is afraid that you will reject him. If anything you can at least be friends and see where it goes from there. Heart
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PostPosted: Tue Dec 14, 2010 1:48 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

He's already told you he's interested by asking twice if you're single. Since you didn't respond, express interest, or ask him to coffee, he's probably assumed you're not interested. You both need to stop being so shy. Just ask him out!
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PostPosted: Tue Dec 14, 2010 5:10 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

purplekitty wrote:
He's already told you he's interested by asking twice if you're single. Since you didn't respond, express interest, or ask him to coffee, he's probably assumed you're not interested. You both need to stop being so shy. Just ask him out!


100% this.
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PostPosted: Tue Dec 14, 2010 6:53 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

superboyian wrote:
You can take the chance if you want but it would be easier if you wait for a few weeks to be sure, but who knows?

This right here Smile also try to ask him in a very disguised way what his answer would be if you did ask him out.
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