Would Ex in house scare off Potential new GFs?

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My girlfriend and I recently split up. We are amicable and I have considered renting her a room upstairs in my house. My only concern about this is that a potential future girlfriend would be frightened off by the presence of my ex in the house. What do you think?

I think you're right. If I met someone, and it turned out their ex was still living there I'd find it awkward. Clean breaks tend to be less complicated.

If you don't want to have another relationship, then by all means rent her a room. If you do this, remember you will have to deal with her potentially having a new relationship. Even if you do think you're fine with it in theory, the reality may be harder to deal with.

If you're still living with your ex, one issue that might come up is that any new girlfriend could question whether you're lying about having broken up with your ex in the first place, kind of like how some married men lie about their marital status to women they have affairs with. I suppose you could avoid this by showing that you're not trying to hide anything either from your new girlfriend or your ex but I think that there could still be a jealousy issue between them even in that case.

I think you would have to look far and wide for a woman who is just getting to know you and then finds out, oh by the way, I am renting a room to my ex girlfriend, let me introduce you. And she would fine with that? I don't think so.

It usually means you still have not cut your ties with the ex girlfriend. Never mind it would just be plain weird to meet the ex girlfriend. And what about privacy? How big is your house anyhow? It would creep me out to know my lover's ex is just down the hall.

Lets just say by doing that, renting a room to the ex GF, you have dramatically cut down the pool of eligible women who might be interested in a relationship with you.

Having the ex living with you would definitely scare away potential future girlfriends, in fact living with any females could potentially scare off any future girlfriends - I think men are totally clueless when it comes to the complexity and underlying issues women have with each other, it's not just about a potential rival in an ex or worry about you getting back with her, but it's a territorial thing too.

I'd say we feminine folk are more territorial than men, the difference is that while men show their territoriality with pissing contests and in more up-front ways, we women do it more subtly and that subtlety can be hugely damaging and so something you really want to avoid, most women wouldn't come within ten foot of you with an ex living with you, I know I'd even think twice if you were living with any female.

No No NO... don't rent a room to your ex.. unless you intend to get back with her or just enjoy torturing yourself. Any other reason will just get in your way.

Thanks Folks! I guess my course of action is pretty obvious.

It's kind of a shame I can't keep her as a housemate, she's not bad company and she could use a break, being that she can't work due to a Medical condition. However, it seems to be a "Rule" that you can't have a former partner in the house if you want a new Partner. She is leaving December 1st.

I think it would scare off a lot of people you're with regardless of gender to be honest.

Is she offering to pay rent at all?
Could you use the additional money?

Yes it would scare many women off, and most of them probably wouldn't alert you to the problem, they'd just steer clear and leave you to work out why they didn't seem interested. The question should be a no-brainer, but people often shy away from admitting that they don't want potential sexual rivals hanging around, so it can look as if nobody would ever feel threatened by something like that, especially in this modern, liberated world. But peel away the veneer of political correctness and you'll find something a little more earthy.

Without a doubt, YES.