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here seem to think everything (even things normal (nt) people do - eg feel sad sometimes, do poop - literally anything! seem to think every single they do in their life is to do with aspergers?

Some people say things like - dont like to eat some food, sometimes feel awkward - its NOT all to do with aspergers

sometimes its your personality aswell

what is your view on this?


I am a very lazy person - Cant be bothered to do much
Cant bothered to do work - if I do I RUSH IT - I Dont check it over or anything - I just hope for the best. - eg people think there is a connection - eg im lazy - "oh I know someone with as and they are lazy! it must be your aspergers"

Yes I've noticed that too. It is silly but vaguely understandable. It think it is down to two things, one of which is once people have been diagnosed or self-diagnosed with AS then it becomes very much part of their identity and so it becomes so important to them that everything starts to be seen through the aspergers lens. The second factor is the nature of human beings to see patterns even when there is none. These two things are mutually reinforcing.

Nemorosa, and Cherrycake, thanks for the interesting observations. I think you're correct, nemorosa, that it depends where a person is at with understanding their own neuroscience. Of course Aspergers does not define everything about a person, just as any other condition would define a person. But it does need to be understood and integrated into a large part of who they are.

Haha I noticed that also, I find it really kind of funny. I enjoy seeing all of the topics that spring up. Speaking of which, I don't like waking up early, I think it might be AS-related!!

lol yea!

great answer - second one - N

Yeah, lots of people do that, it's funny sometimes but annoying at others.

BTW, I'm typing this post with my hands, is that a trait of Asperger's?

It's a natural tendency we have to over-think things. So, it does have to do with AS... but more in the worrying itself sometimes.

I'd agree that some behavior is really just normal human nature.

Perhaps those with Autism and AS have some traits of NTs, but exaggerated.

For example, anyone who experiences a major loss in their life is likely to be depressed, however, for an Aspie or Autistic person, how they cope with this loss may be more extreme or very different than an NT.

However, there are some behaviors which are more typical for AS and Autism than for NTs, for example, a lack of social interaction, and another in most cases, is the ability to hyper-focus and have a passion for particular special interests.

High functioning autism means "functioning" in the NT world (to whatever degree). An AS or Autistic person has multiple specific traits that point to this diagnosis. I think it's a cumulative diagnosis; obviously not one or two traits that would make a diagnosis positive.

Ohhhhhh, yes, it REALLY annoys me when a thread comes up saying something random what's typical in all humans then go asking if it's something to do with AS. It seems to annoy me so much (maybe I'm a black and white thinker, I don't know) that I just have to say my opinion. I'm glad there is someone else here who has figured out that not everything we do is to do with having AS. I love the Simpsons and South Park, but I don't say ''I love the Simpsons and South Park, is it an Aspie thing?'' because the answer is no. Millions of people like the Simpsons and South Park, it's got nothing to do with your neurology. But I might say, ''I like to watch the Simpsons and South Park because watching cartoons eases my anxiety and relaxes me'', but I wouldn't associate that directly on having AS. Other Aspies here might not think watching cartoons like the Simpsons and South Park relaxes them or even thinks like that. Some NTs might think that watching cartoons relaxes them and eases them from stress.

Sometimes reading threads what ask stupid things makes NTs look like some sort of emotionless humans what only like socialising and nothing else, and that is not true. I know many NTs, I've been raised by an NT family, I went to mainstream school and mixed with NTs, I have lots of NT friends, so I'm bound to know a thing or two about them, and a lot of things they do or like is similar to me.

I just think some questions what are asked here are very random. ''Do Aspies like the colour yellow?'' ''Is it an Aspie thing to like sleeping in a double bed?'' ''Do Aspies like to have long curtains in their windows?'' ''Is it an Aspie thing to turn out the kitchen light in the evenings after dinner?'' ''Do Aspies like blue bubble bath?'' ''Is sneezing an Aspie thing?'' ''Do Aspies prefer jam on toast?'' ''Is it an Aspie thing to fart in bed?'' ''Do a lot of Aspies like sitting on the left side on the bus?''
All of these stupid questions get on my nerves because anyone could answer yes or no to these. I wish some Aspies would remember that NTs aren't all the same as one another.

LOL

I walked today, must be an Aspie thing. I will add a thread on here soon asking if it's common in other Aspies to walk because I think NTs fly.

I know! I HATE it when people think every little thing has to do with Asperger's Syndrome. I especially don't like it when they see one abnormal trait in a person with Asperger's Syndrome that doesn't really have anything to do with autism and they assume that it's an "Aspie thing" and that all (or most) people with Asperger's Syndrome have that trait.

With regards to the original post, it makes me really mad when people think that laziness is an "Aspie thing." It bothers me because 1) it causes them to make excuses for the person (no offense) which encourages people to see disabled people as "sick" and 2) it has nothing to do with Asperger's Syndrome. Are you a teenager? Most teenagers are lazy. I think it's more of a "teenager thing" than an "Aspie thing."

I think that sometimes people who think they might be autistic get stuck on every single trait they have, whether or not it's normal, and think that it's more "proof" that they're autistic. Sometimes it's confusing because there are traits that most people have that most people never talk about--I've been surprised many times by NTs saying "Yeah, that's normal. I have that too" when I mention traits I have that I didn't know other people had.

But seriously! "Do Aspies like the color yellow?"? I think I actually saw that topic. It's crazy!

I know exactly what you mean. It is a borderline pet-peeve of mine too. Oh well, I just have to put up with it.

Really? My NT friends ride to college on swans everyday, I must just not do that because I have Asperger's

This morning I planned to meet my friend in the town instead of at her house (I usually go straight to her house), but when I got off the bus I automatically went walking to her house, then when I got near I realised that I was supposed to meet her in the town. I worried for a moment, I'm never normally that absent-minded, but when I told my friend about going the wrong way, she laughed and said, ''that's normal!'' And then explained a time when she done something like that similar (she doesn't know I have AS).

Hello!

A lot of people DO blame ALL their woes on AS. As for myself, I try to think about the positive aspects of it (i.e., high intelligence).

It brings me satisfaction to have people say that I am well-versed on a wide variety of different subjects, and that I know what I'm talking about, and not just BSing it all!

I have diabetes and sleep apnea. Is it because I have AS? Nope...

Have A Great Day!

Rob

I've noticed it too. I have also noticed that some people will even blame it on your AS when it has to do with your personality or something that anyone would do.

It's like the label all of a sudden defines them now.

Some things I have noticed in aspies are also appearant in NTs too. Like doing things to piss people off when they piss you off an one of them be revenge. I hear lot of people do this. Also doing the opposite of what they do when they are called something like selfish or stupid just to throw it back at them. And of course needing to be alone when you have been out all day or been with people too long and now they have to be alone to relax and people who have been working also need to relax and have time to themselves. I have also noticed with the 9/11 thing of how aspies reacted to it was how teens also reacted to it too and all these aspies that talked about their experience with it were all in their teens or younger when it happened. I just thing their AS had nothing to do with their reaction to it because lot of kids acted cold hearted in my school too and were also getting sick of hearing about it. I also don't think it was my AS either because I was a teen then.


I have had constipation problems my whole life, is this because I have AS?

As someone who is guilty of making at least one of those topics I think you guys are looking upon this fact (Yes I do agree it happens a lot) the wrong way.

To quote myself from my blog on "the path to diagnosis" "After looking up different sites on the Internet I found Wrongplanet (Largest online community for people on the autism spectrum) and I was amazed. I were reading topic after topic written by these complete strangers, and yet it was like they were writing for me. They were expressing thoughts and sharing experiences identical to mine. Some I had rarely heard anybody else express, some I thought only I had, and some I didn't even before realize I had. But here, on this Wrongplanet, they were a common sight. Like many have said before “the shoe fit” (meaning that I perfectly identified with it)."

- After having that experience isn't it perfectly natural to have one or more of these assumptions which a lot of you, in this thread, makes fun of? After suddenly finding out that a lot of thoughts and traits you thought was more or less unique to you could be shared by that many people just because you share something called Asperger's (or ASD). After all, most of us share a lot more traits and thoughts than just those you find in the diagnostic criteria. For someone newly diagnosed or who just discovered this site, making such wrongful assumptions where you think everything relates to Asperger's is just a by product of how much we actually share. It's a beautiful thing really.