Men, what do you think of women who are quiet and shy?

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Seems like in the thread about shy men, people have agreed that shyness is a problem for men and not so much for women. I'm not sure I concur, having found shyness a definite disadvantage romantically. So, men, what do you personally think? Would you rather date a woman who is shy and quiet, or more social and outspoken?

I personally prefer women who are social

I am more likely to be quiet, but not necessarily shy at all. I have learned that much about myself. However, I do not want the shy quiet type fro a woman. It would be too similar to who I am.

I prefer a social woman because I'm shy.

It would depend on the rest of her personality and wether or not the shyness conflicts with it. But on average I think shy girls fare better than shy guys

Despite the title, women who date women, you should feel free to get in on this too

Same as what I said in the other thread, which was this:

They sometimes attract my interest, but I've never been able to figure out how to be the outgoing one.

I suppose a more outgoing person would in a sense be easier to date, but not necessarily a better fit.

I will say, when I push myself to come across as confident and outgoing the quality of the attention I receive goes up.
When I seem shy or vulnerable I sometimes get approached more, but always by someone who seems to want something they can dominate.

When I'm pursuing a woman, I'm going to be more likely to go after someone who matches my own social energy level.
I don't find extreme shyness or hesitancy attractive because I feel like I'm imposing or pushing someone out of their comfort one (which is a bad thing romantically).

I personally prefer women who are a little shy and introverted. Extremes are never good though .

They can be interesting, but in my experience, women who are quiet and shy in particular are often up to something. Suddenly, they can break out of being shy in order to gossip. The thing is, you have someone who's more socially vulnerable, but also someone who can bluff and play below their level of social competence very easily in order to mislead, or lull someone into a false sense of security. The same applies to anyone regardless of sex or gender.

I like the shy but social (open) type, as there are plenty of women in my country who are introverted and arrogant as f**k at the same time. Sort of like a played form of shyness in order to not talk to you and ignore you.