Relationships/Two people critical thinking ability.

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Relationship frustrations! The hardest part about finding the right one for me is well and i don't want to sound shallow; IQ scores :/
If you have an above average/superior IQ and social difficulty with the surrounding world you find it very very difficult to make friends and form romance.

I think at least from my perspective that for a relationship to work close IQ scores have a statistical positive correlation with relationship success. Really it's not so much IQ score as it is critical thinking ability. I could have the most beautiful women in the world and it would mean nothing without the ability to tap into a couple of neurons.

I agree in a way, intelligence isn't all that common nowadays lol. That said it isn't so much the fact that people aren't intelligent, it's that very few actually use what they've got. I've known far too many absolutely brilliant people who just waste away everything they have, and consequently I've known others who were average at best who could really make some interesting points/conclusions about pretty complex topics. I sincerely hope though, that you aren't asking potential partners to take an IQ test lol.

For me personally, intelligence is one of the most important things that I look for in a woman. But like I said, it's not necessarily pure intelligence, it's how she uses what she's got. Even if someone isn't all that smart, if they use what they have to the best of their ability then 9 times out of 10 that's more than enough.

Intelligence is one thing.

Another thing, which is possibly of more importance is life experience and maturity. Something that is often lacking in certain kinds of people, despite their intellect.

You could try joining Mensa. All the people you'd meet at their events would meet your IQ pre-requisite.

http://www.mensa.org/

I value social intelligence over IQ. Someone could have an IQ and be a total ass. But someone who's socially smart could still hold a conversation with me even if they dont' know about the topic, and vice versa they can break down topics for me I wouldn't normally be able to dive into or find interesting.

Pity there wasn't a step below Mensa. Those of us well above average, but not "geniuses" or university-educated.

I've never been automatically impressed by either.



Why would you need a social group to validate that? Plus, I'd say the more intelligent a person is, the less likely they are to simply believe they are. Those are feel-good social clubs.

I really agree, and I don't think it's shallow at all, unless you mean the literal numerical IQ, since it's well known the test is biased, and some intelligent people don't test well. Otherwise, I think intelligence is of the utmost importance. It's really hard to stay interested in someone who thinks narrowly or is disinterested in learning or questioning authority.

I sat in on a few in my state, and they are all some version of "I can play dominoes better than youuuu cannnn."

That kind of snottiness club would get old really quick. No... not interested, then. I guess it's best to stick to the old-fashioned "talk to people and find out for yourself" method.

I went to a few events, and it was really for smart people who love to be social. So that left me out. Since I didn't want to go to the events, I quit the organization. I don't need to pay $59 a year for a magazine subscription (though it was an excellent magazine).