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PostPosted: Sun Dec 16, 2012 1:20 pm    Post subject: Talking too much Reply with quote

I often see people saying, on this forum and in real life too, that they talk too little. I know that this is an autistic trait, but it's not my case, at all. Most of the times, I talk too much, unless I have a shutdown (that can last even for a whole day, but usually for a few hours), or I am with people I don't want to talk to. But usually I talk a lot, even too much, usually about my interests, and people have often said me that I never stop, and I can go on talking even for minutes and minutes. Usually when I'm at home, for example while dining, I'll go on and on talking about something, unless my parents stop me. And when I'm not at home, even my classmates must sometimes stop me, and some of them also said I should talk less. I even talk during lessons, and sometimes I interrupt professors while they're talking. Can anybody else relate?
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PostPosted: Sun Dec 16, 2012 1:40 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I have that same problem. The only way to moderate my talking, a lot of the time, is to stop talking completely.
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PostPosted: Sun Dec 16, 2012 2:04 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

My constant problem is that I can never get myself to shut up when talking to people. Add to that my poorly self-taught sense of humor, and you have a recipe for a very annoying person.

Oddly, on the internet, I very rarely talk at all.
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PostPosted: Sun Dec 16, 2012 2:22 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I talk too much to ppl i know. That includes a person ive met for the second time. Its like a switch triggers, and that by simply meeting me a second time, its a trigger to open the floodgates and tell them EVERYTHING.

Sadly the same applies in every email, txt msg, or pm i reply to. The floodgates open and out it all comes.

Really wish i could say sorry and take back all the words that ive swamped ppl with over the years, as i wonder if i would have more friends by keeping my mouth shut Smile
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PostPosted: Sun Dec 16, 2012 4:20 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I tend to talk way too much with people I know. With strangers, however, I'll barely acknowledge their existence. It's not so much that I'm being rude; I just don't know what to say or where to start. My family and I go to my brother-in-law's house for holidays, for example. If it's just him and his wife and son, I'm fine. When others start showing up, however, I'll go to the back yard and play with the dog. They thought it was weird at first, but they seem to accept it now - or at least tolerate it.
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PostPosted: Sun Dec 16, 2012 4:37 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I talk very little, but always at the wrong time. I say this because I usually get someone saying ''ssshhhh, I'm trying to listen to radio/TV/other background noise''.
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PostPosted: Fri Aug 23, 2013 11:40 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I was diagnosed as a HFA woman about four years ago. Sadly I talk way too much and don't know how to stop at times (especially about things I am very passionate about or know well... I am constantly called a know it all too). It gets to the point that people around me, especially family, get pissed off at me and tell me to shut the hell up etc. I also have a problem with interupting people, talking during TV/movies and I also get overly defensive when it seems people are constantly yelling or snapping at me. These problems are depressing me so much at times...I want help but I dont know how to work with these problems. I don't want to make people mad at me or fight...I just want to be happy and find peace.

Can anyone please help me...Im so desperate, I know Im pushing people away from me. Im so very sad...and feel like a failure every time I try not to do these things. Please help. (u can PM me if you like...I really could use someone understanding to talk to right now.) Im begining to hate who I am at times....
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PostPosted: Fri Aug 23, 2013 11:51 pm    Post subject: Re: Talking too much Reply with quote

Kairi96 wrote:
I often see people saying, on this forum and in real life too, that they talk too little. I know that this is an autistic trait, but it's not my case, at all. Most of the times, I talk too much, unless I have a shutdown (that can last even for a whole day, but usually for a few hours), or I am with people I don't want to talk to. But usually I talk a lot, even too much, usually about my interests, and people have often said me that I never stop, and I can go on talking even for minutes and minutes. Usually when I'm at home, for example while dining, I'll go on and on talking about something, unless my parents stop me. And when I'm not at home, even my classmates must sometimes stop me, and some of them also said I should talk less. I even talk during lessons, and sometimes I interrupt professors while they're talking. Can anybody else relate?


yes. in real life, my amount of talking depends on my mood. but talking for more than a few minutes at a time usually makes the muscles hurt in my neck for some reason. not sure why. so whenever i talk to someone about something i'm interested in, it physically hurts. i also talk a lot when i start ranting; i remember being mute at school as a child then ranting the rest of the afternoon/evening after i got home about various things that bothered me ("stupid teachers", irritating people, stupid classmates, etc.) i remember the principal of my school suggesting to my parents when i was like 10 or something to encourage me to say one positive thing for every two negative things i ranted about.

also i have paranoia so sometimes if i'm really paranoid about something and i tell someone, i can't stop talking about it

"social" talking i don't really take as much part in though. if i talk "a lot" i'm usually just talking about things i find interesting or ranting
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PostPosted: Fri Aug 23, 2013 11:54 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I too seem to get very paranoid..especially if it seems like people do not understand what I am trying to get acrossed or if it seems they may not care. I just dont know what to do anymore... Im so very depressed today because my talking issue and getting overly deffensive caused multiple fights today again. I hate this so much..
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PostPosted: Sat Aug 24, 2013 12:18 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I love to talk far too much, but only about my interests. I'm pretty much incapable of holding a normal conversation. I can give replies to people, but furthering a conversation on my own... impossible. People tell me to shut up because I talk during movies (not at the theater though, that's too taboo for me). I despise silence unless I'm in shutdown mode, then the slightest noise will make me feel like I'm going to have a panic attack. Sensory overload sucks.
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PostPosted: Sat Aug 24, 2013 12:26 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

depends on my mood and who I'm around, I feel comfortable around my mom and siblings
My therapist is the only person I tell my deep thoughts and emotions about

Nowadays I feel like I can't say anything without some NT being offended, I'm the one with the social disorder for crying out loud you'll get over it the next day, I'll basically let it haunt me for the next 5 years of my life.
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PostPosted: Sat Aug 24, 2013 12:39 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

LastSanityJermaine wrote:
depends on my mood and who I'm around, I feel comfortable around my mom and siblings
My therapist is the only person I tell my deep thoughts and emotions about

Nowadays I feel like I can't say anything without some NT being offended, I'm the one with the social disorder for crying out loud you'll get over it the next day, I'll basically let it haunt me for the next 5 years of my life.


Same. I remember every rejection, every dirty look, every abandonment like it happened 5 seconds ago.
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PostPosted: Sat Aug 24, 2013 1:03 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Egekrusher wrote:
LastSanityJermaine wrote:
depends on my mood and who I'm around, I feel comfortable around my mom and siblings
My therapist is the only person I tell my deep thoughts and emotions about

Nowadays I feel like I can't say anything without some NT being offended, I'm the one with the social disorder for crying out loud you'll get over it the next day, I'll basically let it haunt me for the next 5 years of my life.


Same. I remember every rejection, every dirty look, every abandonment like it happened 5 seconds ago.

It's amazing that even though I'm the one with aspergers, the one who will hurt longer in the run is the one that has to have the thicker skin, be the bigger man and accommodate to everyone else's needs and feelings. This makes me feel like I'm being screwed by the world. I remember one kid in elementary school that use to pick on me, I tried not to let it get to me and usually kept to myself, didn't tattle, but this kid just didn't have any boundaries when it came to picking on me, made fun of the way I look, the way I talk, anything I do in general, tried to get everyone to exclude me, when a rumor goes around that I said his mom was fat the kid starts crying a river a tears and tattles on me even though I didn't do anything.
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PostPosted: Sat Aug 24, 2013 1:14 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I think talking too much without realizing it is part of autism that some people experience. I have learned to be aware of how I'm communicating with other people. So I always try to pay attention to other people's reactions and let them talk. I actually even try to consciously shut up unless I need to talk. That way I won't have a chance to be annoying.

Having said that, talking too much has never been a problem for me. It was rather saying inappropriate things or saying things at the wrong moment.
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PostPosted: Sat Aug 24, 2013 9:32 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Sometimes I do either. If it's something that I am really passionate about then sometimes I get to talking and I just go on and on and don't realize how much I am talking and it's hard to stop. And I repeat a lot so that annoys some people sometimes. But other times I don't talk as much and there are even times when I don't like to talk. So it really depends on whom I am with and what I am talking about.
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