Cassandra Syndrome
semota
Yellow-bellied Woodpecker
Joined: 13 Dec 2008
Age: 38
Gender: Female
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Location: Budapest, Hungary
Your problem is not being an NT but being a woman socialized in a patriarchal society. Patriarchy drills women to adapt to other people and to base their confidence on other people's approval and opinions. In fact, most AS women I know have the same problem as well.
This isn't comparable. Now if they made up some kind of disorder in which people who aren't seven feet tall are afflicted with because they're around people who are seven feet tall, then it would be comparable and just as insulting.
I disagree... (being 6'9" - 7 feet in my required diabetic shoes)... there is a set of specific reactions that I get from normal sized people... perhaps there should be a name for it...
on a different note, however... I have experienced what Cassandra Syndrome is describing in my life... people do not believe that I am capable of the things I am... or that I know myself as well as I do... and will tell me so... constantly...
But I do not think it has ANYTHING to do with Autistic Spectrum Disorders...I think it is directly tied to pov problems... if something is so far outside someone's own frame of reference, they are unable to conceptualize it or understand it... That lack of understanding causes cognitive dissonance... as a defense mechanism, to minimize damage caused by a dissonant event, they end up disbelieving...
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semota
Yellow-bellied Woodpecker
Joined: 13 Dec 2008
Age: 38
Gender: Female
Posts: 61
Location: Budapest, Hungary
maybe that's the reason my complaints and personal experience connected to aspieness were belittled and subject to disbelief.
Every possibly... When I was undergoing diagnostics for my mixed bipolar, I explained that under times of stress, I was afraid I would hurt someone, badly... He told me that it was because I was afraid of it that I was not capable of it... I almost took a letter opener and pinned his hand to the desk. My Significant Other saw my twitch and grabbed my arm... At that moment it was logical to demonstrate the violence I was capable of... but the NT did not believe that I was capable of it until I started to move to do it...
It is not their fault... Neurotypicals tend to communicate in exageration and hyperbole... They cannot conceptualize of someone that is capable of extremes that they would only use as a descriptor for the mundane... so when confronted with a thought process or behavior that seems to be of that caliber or nature, they suffer cognitive vapor lock.
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'cassandra' has nothing to do with sex, but "vibe syncing" sure as hell does... maybe I'll try that topic next, maybe a new thread: "Resolved: the absence of "vibe synching" is the main difference between having sex with a NT and an AS person"...
The alleged "cassandra" crap has nothing at all to do with any real pathology caused by the AS person. It has to do with the NT being self-centered, weak-minded, and unsuitable for any form of human companionship, whatsoever.
Did that feel good? Did you enjoy reading that? Does it sound fair? Does it sound accurate? All I did was flip the whole lie over so that NT gets blamed instead of the AS.
Oh, but let me guess, whenever there is any disharmony between NT and AS, it is 100% the AS fault, no question possible, since the NT is always perfect, pure, and better than God.
Of COURSE men are immune! Aren't you aware that women are the ONLY ones who can suffer in a relationship? Men only CAUSE suffering, we never actually experience it.
for sure, differences in needs are a very real cause of problems in the long run of relationships. one or both partners can suffer depression off the back of this and i don't fully understand why cassandra needs her own syndrome, except to fit in (or compete, i'd hazard a guess?).
i mean seriously, the more people i talk to about these things, the more i hear about the changes in pace of relationship. one of my close female friends husband of 10+ years is just a lot less out-going and social than her and used to get moody if she went out without him. thankfully she has 'womaned up' lately and hangs out with the friends she misses as well as making hubby time...
i get to see more of her and her husband gets a more cheerful version of her back. surely this is a win-win situation?
the 1st couple of the above links i looked at for cassandra's syndrome read very flakily. SAD is real, depression is real, emotional impact of hurtful situations is real and perfectly legitimate... why the need for a new or specific moniker?
deal with the specifics of the situation and you will eventually feel better (or move on, dammit).
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