How do I really get a girl?

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People say that I just need to be confident, change clothes, take steroids, etc. Sometimes, I get the feeling I have to be an utterly psychopathic barbarian just to please someone of the opposite sex. Ruthless, callous, vicious. After all, they get ahead in society.

whoever is telling you to take steroids is not using common sense.

i married a sweet, gentle guy. if you're like him and keep asking different girls out in a respectful way, you'll eventually find someone compatible.

No girl's ever really been respectful to me.

(Note: It is not necessary to complete these steps in order, or finish them completely before moving onto the next.)

Step 1: Work out a bit. NO STEROIDS, just healthy food and LOTS of it.
Step 2: Develop some interesting hobbies.
Step 3: Work on your social skills by reading books on the subject, and going out and socializing (Don't forget the second part).
Step 4: Learn to dress well. Buy some decent clothes (Doesn't have to be expensive ones, just make sure they aren't worn, full of holes, etc). There's lots of places to get second-hand clothes that are in excellent shape for really cheap, check out second hand stores.
Step 5: Shave regularly or keep a regularly-trimmed and groomed beard. Get a decent haircut. Brush your teeth and shower every day.
Step 6: Get yourself financially sorted. You don't gotta be rich, just have your finances in order. Don't recklessly spend money. Have a couple thousand in savings. It helps a lot.
Step 7: Get yourself emotionally sorted. Learn to find your zen. You'll need to work through your emotional issues cause neurotypicals, especially women, will sense it like a neon sign hanging over your head.

Do all of the above steps, and step 8, "Build your self-confidence" will happen practically automatically.

GOOD LUCK!

^I don't know if I should laugh at how naïve your post is.

She one of those cheap ones you find in a fleabag motel or is she expensive?

Giftorcurse:

As hard a pill as it may be to swallow, you can't use women's treatment of you as an excuse to keep feeling the way you do about them. I used to get bullied in school and it took me over a decade to get over it and start trusting people again. How did I manage? By realizing that I was treated badly by individuals, not society at large. Every new woman you meet doesn't have access to the same perceptions that other women (the ones who didn't give you respect) have had about you, unless you first give them those perceptions. The old adage is true: Whatever comes around, goes around. I know it's hard not making sweeping generalizations about women when all or most of your experiences have been rotten, but when it comes right down to it, being negative and\or angry about it will never help your chances of getting a positive experience. You have to choose to let things slide and move on. The only thing you ought to worry about changing is your outlook. It will take time and effort but it's not impossible.

I thought like this until not too long ago. It took me a long time to realize that the people who have meaningful relationships actually did the things in Shau's post. These are things that I have recently been working on myself. Although I have not reached my goal yet, I will keep working harder until it happens.