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PostPosted: Mon Jun 25, 2007 9:08 am    Post subject: How to deal with annoying people. Reply with quote

Hey! Smile , most of the people at school I get along with fine. But there's one guy who talks about me behind my back and he made a really rude comment infront of me once. This schoolyear I was lucky to not have him in any of my classes, but he might be in my physics class next year(don't know if he chose it, he's not that bright). Anyway I was just walking and I met him and I thought just nod and say hello, so I did, but he didn't respond and looked weird at me. This really bothers me and made me sad, but I wish I just didn't care. So do you guys got any tips on how to deal with these sorts of things?
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PostPosted: Mon Jun 25, 2007 9:30 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

One option would be to pretend he does not exist.
Obviously there are others if you find this does not work.
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PostPosted: Mon Jun 25, 2007 9:39 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

It ws really good of you to attempt to make a friendly contact with this guy, but really, he's the loser-not you. This may sound reallybizarre, but I think that he just has a poor image of himself and as a result, he transfers that hate of himself onto others. In the future, I would not even make eye contact with him because he is not worth it. If it turns out he is in one of your classes and begins with the rude comments, confront him. I've seen this happen a few times where a bully keeps pushing the rudness until the victim finally just snaps back by asking why he feels so inclined to embarrass others. as a result, the bully backs down because the question asked is embarrasing. hope that helps!!!
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PostPosted: Mon Jun 25, 2007 9:44 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I really just wish that I didn't care, but that is difficult. But Kosmonaut it is a good thing to do I you manage it.
Woman: What do you think about just telling him to shut up instead of confronting him?
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PostPosted: Mon Jun 25, 2007 10:10 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

not to care is really the best solution. tell me, why do you care?
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PostPosted: Mon Jun 25, 2007 10:45 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I see what you mean, and I have had very similar experiences. Sometimes people have said rude things to or about me but I just pretend in my mind that a 1 tonne weight has fallen on that person and that they are not there (mainly the latter).

One thing you can do is to laugh at yourself when you hear anything said to you, it really kept bullies away from me in Year 9.

There is someone in my Engineering class who has annoyed me various times and has physically provoked me (eg. hitting me with plastic, puling my bag's strap) and he just stands there smirking with his hands in his pockets. But he never tries at school. I, on the other hand, am a very hard worker. He's getting an F in Engineering (it was dropped down by one grade
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PostPosted: Mon Jun 25, 2007 11:17 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I pity bullies. They are just doing this to deflect any attention away from their own shortcomings, but it just ends up revealing them even more. Ignoring them is very hard if the abuse is persistant. So it isn't always an option for people. It wasn't for me.
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PostPosted: Tue Jun 26, 2007 12:57 am    Post subject: Re: How to deal with annoying people. Reply with quote

student wrote:
Hey! Smile , most of the people at school I get along with fine. But there's one guy who talks about me behind my back and he made a really rude comment infront of me once. This schoolyear I was lucky to not have him in any of my classes, but he might be in my physics class next year(don't know if he chose it, he's not that bright). Anyway I was just walking and I met him and I thought just nod and say hello, so I did, but he didn't respond and looked weird at me. This really bothers me and made me sad, but I wish I just didn't care. So do you guys got any tips on how to deal with these sorts of things?


Walk up to him.

Punch him in the face.

Punch him again.

Don't take crap from people.
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PostPosted: Tue Jun 26, 2007 3:30 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Ignorance usually works for me.

Although I'm so used to being bullied I put on them the "shoot me again" concept where I also use reverse psychology, and say "go ahead, you'll be doing me a favour" etc.

It tends to work 9 times out of 10.
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PostPosted: Tue Jun 26, 2007 4:15 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Alternative wrote:
Ignorance usually works for me.

Although I'm so used to being bullied I put on them the "shoot me again" concept where I also use reverse psychology, and say "go ahead, you'll be doing me a favour" etc.

It tends to work 9 times out of 10.


I tend to get angry and dwell on things like that if a take the passive "shoot me again" response.

I know that they are not doing me any favours. They know that, that's why they continue purposefully being annoying.

I'm an ape when it comes to this kind of problem solving. Man hit me. I hit man. Then I feel proud when I hit back.
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PostPosted: Wed Jun 27, 2007 2:51 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Sleep in class
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PostPosted: Wed Jul 04, 2007 6:53 pm    Post subject: Re: How to deal with annoying people. Reply with quote

Yea!!!!!!!!, get in fite wit this kid, once u defeat this crazy kid , that kid aint gunna go near u coz u wud smash him again.... simple
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PostPosted: Tue Aug 14, 2007 9:30 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Alternative wrote:
Ignorance usually works for me.

Although I'm so used to being bullied I put on them the "shoot me again" concept where I also use reverse psychology, and say "go ahead, you'll be doing me a favour" etc.

It tends to work 9 times out of 10.


That's like the rule in the Bible "An eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth, but if someone slaps you on the right cheek offer them the left as well". Although I'm not religious I do think that the bible has some very good moral rules to help save people from their otherwise animal natures.
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PostPosted: Wed Aug 15, 2007 7:51 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I don't have much advice except... Don't stand up in the middle of the lesson in a HUGE RAGE and shout 'QUIT IT YOU B*****D!!!' I got in a lot of trouble for that...
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PostPosted: Sat Sep 15, 2007 2:05 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Confront about the guy about his nonsense and tell him that it's rude to talk about others behind their backs.

People should be talked about in front of their backs instead. Everyone knows this.
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