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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Sexuality problems and Asperger's |
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Posted: 27 Oct 2010, 12:25 pm
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Replies: 7
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| Hi! I've got a problem here which appears to be threatening my relationship with my girlfriend. We've been seeing each other for four years, though things have just gotten a lot trickier because she's just moved to Chile to start a 6-8 year series of postdocs. The problem appears to involve a deep-s... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Significant other demanding I defriend an ex-crush |
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Posted: 06 May 2010, 9:47 am
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Replies: 64
Views: 7,645
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| I'm reading through the posts right now. Looks like most of you are agreeing with the SO, which makes sense to me. But it's going to be hard to downgrade a friend. Let me explain what I mean by friends of the family. The ex-crush's mother lives very near my parents by sheer coincidence, whereas the ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Significant other demanding I defriend an ex-crush |
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Posted: 06 May 2010, 8:47 am
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| Wow! I didn't realize this would get so hot! Let me clarify something else. "DEFRIEND" is too strong a word. The SO wants me to DOWNGRADE the ex-crush to DISTANT FRIEND status so she can be the special woman in my life. That is quite understandable given the situation. What could very well be going ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Significant other demanding I defriend an ex-crush |
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Posted: 05 May 2010, 8:39 am
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| Let me clarify some things. 1. I never had a romantic relationship with the ex-crush. 2. I have not gone to singles events ever since I've been seeing the SO. 3. The SO and I, in effect, had to retroactively figure out when we started dating. It happened so gradually that she and I still considered ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Significant other demanding I defriend an ex-crush |
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Posted: 04 May 2010, 7:56 pm
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| The thing is the SO and ex seem to not compete. I feel very comfortable around the ex. She relaxes me a lot. However, the SO gives me emotional support and is always there for me. The ex is more of an "icon or idol" than a real person. Basically, in an IDEAL world the ex would have higher potential.... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Significant other demanding I defriend an ex-crush |
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Posted: 04 May 2010, 7:14 pm
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| Hi! I've got an odd problem with my relationship. I've been going out with a girl for 3.5 years. Other than her, I only have two major friends: one guy, and a girl who I've been friends with for a while -- and on whom I had a crush for the longest time. My SO is demanding that I "downgrade" the ex-c... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Psychological barriers to a sustained erection |
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Posted: 18 Jun 2009, 7:08 am
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Replies: 7
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| I think we just discovered another wrinkle. By sheer chance, I was going through a tough stretch at work at the time we started dating. I was melting down a lot -- you know how it feels. I had gone to a psychophramacologist to try to get myself an official AS diagnosis, but instead he diagnosed me w... |
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Forum: Adult Autism Issues Topic: Psychological barriers to a sustained erection |
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Posted: 17 Jun 2009, 7:11 am
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| Hi! My NT (albeit geeky) girlfriend and I seem to have stumbled into a problem in our relationship. For a long time, she and I were a bit afraid of intimacy, especially sexuality. Eventually, she decided to go for it and suggested that we try out sex (I'm still a bit nervous about it). We are each o... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Experiment to determine if stuffed animals benefit Aspies? |
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Posted: 01 Jun 2008, 6:35 pm
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Replies: 6
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| Hi! A friend and I (I'm Aspie, she's NT) are trying to think up an experiment to determine whether or not giving an Aspie a stuffed animal will help calm him or her (as if you were giving the subject a pet -- but one that's not allergenic). If we get enough people we could actually make a project ou... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Use of stuffed animals as therapy? |
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Posted: 18 May 2008, 2:04 pm
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Replies: 11
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| Aspies tend to have more allergies than most people, The basis for this claim? I've seen several Web sites which indicate that Aspies are more prone to allergies than NT's (some people claim that the AS symptoms themselves could be an allergic reaction of their own). Here's a thread on Aspies for F... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Use of stuffed animals as therapy? |
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Posted: 18 May 2008, 10:04 am
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Replies: 11
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| Real animals are harder to maintain, and they die (I don't want to get a pet because I'm afraid I'll feel awful when it dies). Besides, Aspies tend to have more allergies than most people, so cats and dogs could just make things worse. |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Use of stuffed animals as therapy? |
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Posted: 18 May 2008, 7:05 am
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| Hi! I've been told that Aspies tend to respond well to pets as caring for a pet can help improve empathic skills and so forth. Well, a few months ago my girlfriend bought me a little stuffed otter. Both of us have been amazed by how much I've been playing with him. I've started hugging him, talking ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Affection as a stim? |
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Posted: 08 Apr 2008, 7:49 am
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Replies: 9
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| Hi! I've been seeing someone for 1.75 years now and she started discussing how I'm constantly trying to hug her and be comforted by her and so forth. I'm trying to back off on it now. However, she brought up the possibility that I'm using affection as a kind of stim for emotional security and suppor... |
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Forum: Art, Writing, and Music Topic: Photography project: A Day in the Life of the World, 3/29 |
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Posted: 18 Mar 2008, 9:28 pm
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| Hi! Remember the book "A Day in the Life of America" and its sequels about other countries? I thought this idea up on the spur of the moment: take a 24 hour period and tell everyone on a mailing list to take pictures of what they see that day. I posted it on a photography forum on 2/29, planning the... |
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Forum: General Autism Discussion Topic: Genetic mutation discovered as cause for autism |
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Posted: 10 Jan 2008, 10:46 am
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Replies: 5
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| This just came across a Boston web site: http://www.boston.com/news/health/articles/2008/01/10/rare_genetic_hot_spot_is_linked_to_autism Note that this only covers 1% of people with autism. However, the odds that someone will get autism if they have this mutations are 100 times higher than if they d... |
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Forum: In-Depth Adult Life Discussion Topic: Should an Aspie adult have children? |
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Posted: 01 Dec 2007, 7:23 pm
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Replies: 198
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I like kids a lot, and kids love me. However, I have no idea how to take care of them! I also hate to think about cleaning up after them, lack of sleep, and so forth.
Maybe I shouldn't have kids of my own and just play with my friends' kids...
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