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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: I hate weddings i'm I wrong? |
| Merceile |
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Posted: 26 Jun 2013, 4:38 pm
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Replies: 18
Views: 2,654
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| The problem with weddings is that they take so damn long and you spend a lot of time waiting for the bride, for the food, speeches ect. That and having to wear a dress. You complain about suits? Try wearing nylon stockings, heels and make up. Just because I am female does not mean I like wearing any... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Do you find other aspies are easier to be friends with? |
| Merceile |
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Posted: 19 Jun 2013, 2:21 pm
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Replies: 37
Views: 8,134
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| I had a hard time connecting with other Aspies, well the two I got to know a little better in RL. But I get along best with people who have 'issues' themselves and kind of know how it is to be different but don't lack that much in the social skills department. One very good friend of mine has ADD an... |
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Forum: Health, Fitness, and Sports Topic: Would you donate a kidney? |
| Merceile |
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Posted: 18 Jun 2013, 9:14 am
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Replies: 18
Views: 3,922
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| 2 or 3 years is was he has right now, which is just a general estimate, it could be 5 if he is lucky. It is quite a complicated condition because all major organs are attacked and they are affecting each other. And it won't change much even with a kidney transplant he is more likely to die of infect... |
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Forum: Health, Fitness, and Sports Topic: Would you donate a kidney? |
| Merceile |
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Posted: 17 Jun 2013, 1:02 pm
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Replies: 18
Views: 3,922
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| It is still a hypothetical question. Meaning I was not asked directely. But it is something I might have to consider in the near future. And I really don't want to. I'm probably somewhat selfish. Anyway my Dad suffers from a rather rare condition, it damages all mayor organs. His kidneys are worst, ... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: how do i initiate a friendship? with another aspie?? |
| Merceile |
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Posted: 13 May 2013, 9:57 am
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Replies: 15
Views: 6,146
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| Why don't you write him an Email und explain exactly what you just told us? I learnt to tell people exactly what I want or mean, when I don't want to be misunderstood. And him beeing an Aspie too doubles the risk of getting your wires crossed otherwise. Well it's how I would do it and how I would pr... |
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Forum: Social Skills and Making Friends Topic: Girl's stag night |
| Merceile |
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Posted: 04 May 2013, 7:01 pm
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Replies: 9
Views: 1,553
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| I just came home from a girls stag night, or more of a eve of the wedding party? I'm not quite sure what the correct english term is. It was one of the worst experiances I ever had. And not because it was one of those silly things where everybody gets drunk and tries to embarass themselves as much a... |
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Forum: Random Discussion Topic: Birthday gift for my brother, help ! |
| Merceile |
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Posted: 29 Oct 2012, 10:59 am
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Replies: 6
Views: 1,230
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| Well I ment no suprises in the sense that I couldn't take him spontaneously to a concert or something if it wasn't his own idea and he had some time to get used to it? It might work if it is really something he likes and I tell him like a week before. But it could also be his favorite band and he wo... |
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Forum: Random Discussion Topic: Birthday gift for my brother, help ! |
| Merceile |
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Posted: 29 Oct 2012, 7:39 am
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Replies: 6
Views: 1,230
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| I kind of want to say thank you to my brother, so I wanted to give him something a little more meaningful than usual. But that turns out to be really difficult. I have been diagnosed with Aspergers, my brother - well he does not have any kind of diagnosis because he never wanted any kind of label, b... |
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Forum: Random Discussion Topic: Present for one's host |
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Posted: 21 Sep 2012, 10:36 am
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Replies: 2
Views: 645
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| Usually you give a small present when you are invited somewhere, mostly when you actually stay somewhere a few days. So I got chocolate today, actually really really really bad foreign chocolate. So maybe I am a chocolate-snob - but hey I'm swiss. So isn't i ridiculous to give a swiss friend bad cho... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Finally got the Disability pension in Australia |
| Merceile |
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Posted: 10 Sep 2012, 10:13 am
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Replies: 8
Views: 1,834
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| Getting some kind of pension does not mean giving up. It doesn't mean you are not allowed to work, I guess it is even encouraged. (wouldn't you get bored?) But it can take a lot of pressure off, if you don't have to take every stupid job you know is going to make you miserable. I don't know how it i... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: Outcome of informing at work about AS |
| Merceile |
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Posted: 05 Sep 2012, 9:41 am
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Replies: 8
Views: 1,332
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| I tried that once and it didn't work out at all. But I guess that depends on the kind of relationship between boss and employee or what kind of person your boss is. While my boss gave me more leeway (because he kind of had to) he was very resentful because i hadn't discolsed my "condition" in the jo... |
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Forum: Work and finding a Job Topic: I got fired because.. |
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Posted: 05 Sep 2012, 7:21 am
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Replies: 2
Views: 1,561
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| I am working different jobs and I tend to get fired, mostly without reason and sometimes I just don't understand it. So I had this temp thing which was basically filing - my boss was a bit of an a**hole, he was always tellling sexist or racist jokes and teasing just about anybody. Once we had to cle... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Procrastination and time management |
| Merceile |
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Posted: 19 Jun 2012, 7:01 am
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Replies: 14
Views: 2,330
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| I use my iPhone for everything. I have alarms set for paying bills, doing laundry, shopping (including shopping list ect) - I even have monthly alarms set for things like calling my grandmother or phoning friends I might otherwise forget about. I try to make appointments in advance if possible, like... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Procrastination and time management |
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Posted: 18 Jun 2012, 12:46 pm
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Replies: 14
Views: 2,330
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| ADD is an out dated term. Its now called ADHD-PI (primarily inattentive). I think that change hasn't made it into german professional literature yet. (English isn't my mothertongue obviously, sorry for all the grammar and spelling mistakes by the way) Anyway the anglophone area is better informed a... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Procrastination and time management |
| Merceile |
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Posted: 18 Jun 2012, 10:00 am
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Replies: 14
Views: 2,330
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| Well ADD like me is without the hyperactivity (otherwise it would be called ADHD) - I am more of a dreamer and get easily distracted. But I was a very quiet and well behaved child, kust lost in my own head maybe. It usually also comes with problems with social interaction, because you have trouble f... |
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Forum: The Haven Topic: Procrastination and time management |
| Merceile |
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Posted: 18 Jun 2012, 6:34 am
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Replies: 14
Views: 2,330
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| I have huge issues with procrastination and my atrocious time management. Well I was diagnosed with ADD long before my Aspergers diagnosis for a reason. I have problems to get my priorities straight, make decisions, get started doing something ect. I am somehow afraid to face hard tasks, do somethin... |
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