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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Telling vs. not telling a NT woman your diagnosis |
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Posted: 26 Mar 2013, 3:08 pm
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Replies: 13
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| So I wouldnt tell it when meeting someone and so on. So Asperger is part of my personality, and when someone meets me, he meets my personality anyway, so I cant hide my Asperger, I only can hide the official diagnosis. However, if the relationship becomes deeper, you should mention it from my opini... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Telling vs. not telling a NT woman your diagnosis |
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Posted: 26 Mar 2013, 8:05 am
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Replies: 13
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| Yea, I've had mixed experiences with this.. Either the person I tell will assume I'm broken or they'll say that question I really hate hearing.. "Oh, my {so and so} has Aspergers.. You must be really smart huh!". I will never consider myself smart, I will always be a student and I don't have enough... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Telling vs. not telling a NT woman your diagnosis |
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Posted: 26 Mar 2013, 1:36 am
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| My Bf revealed it to me after 6 months into our relationship when I began to not understand him or his avoidance of things. I began to ask him questions and he told me he had aspergers. I researched it and many women talked negative of their experience with men who have aspergers; this really scare... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Telling vs. not telling a NT woman your diagnosis |
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Posted: 25 Mar 2013, 11:08 pm
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| The way I see it, if you are high functioning , the best thing is to not tell her until after she gets to know you. In my experience, even the nicest girl starts to make all the wrong assumptions as soon as you declare yourself. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Being friendly/being used |
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Posted: 06 Mar 2013, 6:22 pm
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Replies: 15
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| Alright. But if they're not your friend yet, they're not obligated to do something as nice back (and there are times when there are differing opinions of what actually constitutes "nice", someone might not want that gift/compliment/whatever no matter how good the intentions are). Not even in the na... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Being friendly/being used |
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Posted: 06 Mar 2013, 5:35 pm
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Replies: 15
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| I wasn't clear about a couple things: if I bring a present it's for their birthday or some occasion that we're meeting. It's not like I bring presents all the time like a stalker and expect to buy myself a date. I'm not that stupid. But I think if someone you know shows that they care, you should be... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: She shouldn't have even messaged me |
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Posted: 06 Mar 2013, 4:43 pm
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Replies: 59
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| And remember, you should keep in mind that almost any girl on dating site has more options than you This is why I think using dating sites is just not a very good idea for most men. Sure, it's easier. It's less of a blow to your pride to be ignored online than to be rejected in person. But if you t... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Being friendly/being used |
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Posted: 06 Mar 2013, 3:56 pm
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| A peeve I have in the dating game is when you're trying to be nice to a lady and get to know her better, but she just strings you along. I'll bring them candy or a present and they smile and say "aw you're so sweet" and then never call, text, e-mail, or return any of mine. They never want to hang ou... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: How does NT protect themselves from AS meltdown? |
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Posted: 05 Mar 2013, 10:40 pm
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Replies: 29
Views: 2,758
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| I'd rec that he get on some sedatives. Worked for me like a charm. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: To date an "ex aspie" |
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Posted: 05 Mar 2013, 8:56 pm
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Replies: 21
Views: 2,617
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| Zinnell took the words out of my mouth. It could be just as easily argued that people with autism have more pressure to succeed because of the expectation that they can only be idiots in need of care or geniuses. |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Does an aspergers have chance of dating normal person? |
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Posted: 05 Mar 2013, 5:28 pm
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Replies: 21
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| Depends on what kind of date you're talking about. If a basically platonic date then heck yes. If a sexual relationship, then yes but a little harder. And if you mean a partner you intend to marry, well yes it's possible, but it's the exception rather than the norm at a young age. As the previous po... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: 4 easy rules will avoid 98% of sexual harassment accusations |
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Posted: 05 Mar 2013, 5:22 pm
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Replies: 146
Views: 14,589
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| I have a bad habit of reaching out to squeeze people's arms if they're sitting or standing near me. I have enough restraint that I never do it with strangers, although it still happens occasionally with friends and family. Actually my experience with women is usually the exact opposite problem: I ra... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: NT girl here just looking to muse about something |
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Posted: 05 Mar 2013, 1:52 pm
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Replies: 31
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| I have a thread up about this, aspies tend to be late bloomers. Teenage years to early twenties are celibate, and then they become frustrated that their age group is moving past the stage of dating and into marriage and kids. He'd probably thrilled to be asked out idirectly, instead of having to be ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: NT girl here just looking to muse about something |
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Posted: 05 Mar 2013, 11:45 am
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Replies: 31
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| Supposidly there are aspie dating websites. Youd be a hot commidity on any I would think- being a nt college female who likes aspie guys. Are there really? Well that certainly sounds better than holing myself up in the library and waiting to bump into one on the history floor (I adore history). Of ... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: NT girl here just looking to muse about something |
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Posted: 05 Mar 2013, 11:33 am
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| Do you know much about aspie men? I'd be the first to admit that while a lot of us are frustrated that most women don't give us the time of day, most of us also probably know at least one girl who took interest and got repelled . Probably the most off-putting thing to NT women is our obsessive habit... |
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Forum: Love and Dating Topic: Losing my mind over the need for affection |
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Posted: 04 Mar 2013, 4:58 pm
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Replies: 56
Views: 9,410
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| Look, NT men go through the same feelings that Aspie men do, it's just even more challenging for aspires. I have a lot of the same problems, and no answers. But I would advise you on two things: 1. Don't even think about looking for escorts, phone sex, webcam models, etc. That's the road to addictio... |
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