I still feel too much

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It makes me feel immature, I still care what people think of me, and there is no way to stop. Even the most logical explanations to why I shouldn't don't make sense, emotion conquers all. I'm 19 and still can't deal with bitter hearts and their opinions.

I am 25 and I still let peoples opinions upset me too much as well.

It sucky.


One has to remember that one persons opinion is not God's (or whoever you believe the higher power to be) judgement of you.

But it still hurts, because I have none of my own, and I still regret not knowing how society works earlier.

It dosen't matter if they're not God, they are stronger than I.

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Any tips on not feeling.

I don't know if any of this addresses what you are dealing with, but I'll offer it nevertheless:

If you only interact with a small number of people, each one of those people have a disproportionate affect on you. If you only have 3 friends and 2 out of the 3 are in a bad mood, that means it becomes harder to get relief from unpleasant emotions. If you have 10 friends and 2 are in a bad mood, you have far more options. Having a larger number of people you can turn to helps. That's easy to say, but much harder to put into practice. I can't say I've been very good at it. I only mention this to point out why introverts may sometimes be at a disadvantage in dealing with outside emotional pressures.

I understand feeling immature when you are affected by emotions. I have always hated feeling emotions and often wish I did not. I cope with it by trying not to show any emotion so others will not be in turn affected by my emotions and thus create a feedback loop that only increases the problem. Sometimes writing in a journal or blasting off on an internet forum can help you to blow off steam.

From what you write, it sounds like other people's anger and bitterness are the things that are really bothering you. I feel much the same. When people become angry and bitter around me, I try to suggest solutions that would help the angry, bitter person. I don't know that this helps them a lot, but it makes me feel better. (apart from the black eyes I get when they hit me.)

I think people often use anger and bitterness as an alternative to actually doing something to change their bad situations. It's easier to complain than it is to make an effort. It's more comfortable to blame others than it is to recognize your responsibility for your own life. You can't change what another person feels or thinks, but you can take action for your own benefit. Perhaps the best you can do is to be a good example and hope others can learn from that.

Apart from the creative use of chemicals, I don't know that there is a terribly effective way to not feel emotions. But it is possible to sometimes redirect your emotions into more positive activities. Creative pursuits such as writing, photography, painting, acting or Tuvan throat singing can help you process and filter the emotions of others so it sort of passes through you rather than hits you like a truck. Art won't stop you from feeling emotions, but it can be helpful in having control and power over the emotions. Knowledge and understanding always helps you deal with difficult and stressful situations.

I hope it all gets better soon,

Lars

I find some peoples opinions disturbing it's hard for me to accept them and like them. It just sickens me what they think. It brings out my feelings and I get upset.

Yeah, can I get a more NT response? Like "stop being such a baby."

Please?

Overdose?

On what?