How do you cope with people disliking some of your traits?

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I was curious if anyone else lived in this kind of situation. A family member or loved one constantly nit picking you doing this/that. There isn't a DAY GOES BY that I don't do SOMETHING that upsets my family in some way. (Earlier it was a smile/laugh/smirk over a cousin mentioning on Facebook having to sell her DS for money for her family) Do I find that funny no. So I can't explain WHY I laughed. I didn't LOL! but laughed softly IMO (Maybe money is tight for her family) but to sell a DS you probably will not get much for it. That was the "funny" IMO. Dad of course asked why I was laughing I said I didn't know and blew him off. It's nice not letting my families issues with me get to me.

If it's a trait I myself don't like, then I'll work on out but it's nothing to lose sleep over. If it's just straight hatin, then I couldn't give a s**t lol.

If people don't like something I say, I kill them.

If someone doesn't like something I've said or done, then I consider that a personal problem: theirs, not mine! I don't give a s**t what people think of me anymore. I've gotten to a point in my life where I'm sick to death of pretending to be 'normal' and bending over backwards to fit in, when NTs couldn't be bothered to give me the same consideration...

Amen

Too bad I can act as tough as I want behind the safety of a computer screen

Na na na na na na you can't catch me

I find it incredibly ironic that when it comes to living with a condition with stimulation sensitivities, I've encountered more NTs who complain and whine more on an hourly basis than I do in a single day. I was even told by a manager that I was too laid back. That's got to tell you something. I've learned to live with people's flaws and personal quirks (loud chewing, etc) instead of tearing at them when it happens for a few seconds. And if something does bother me, I always ask them to stop politely or at least be real friendly about it. That's more than I can say for most NTs that I've ever known.

And having lived an entire life of people complaining at and about me, I just don't care anymore. They can do a certain little thing that starts with the letter "F" and ends with the word "off"!

Yeah, the aspie focus on details. That's the way it is folks.

I'm afraid of breaking an unwarranted smile so I turn around and hide it as something else to camouflage it. It's something like laughing gas and I can't bottle it. My brain must be biased for a specific ironic, odd or funny detail.

Let your laughter reign there, it just may be contagious, and let it all out and explain how you think about stuff. Be bombastic with them. Either they'll ask you to move or you'll get them to settle.
Both ways win.

I had a big argument with my parents about a friendship that ended two years ago. I was told to get over it. It would be nice to "get over it". but this friendship and it's termination and aftermath have also come to define me in some ways over the last two years. There are things that I wish that NTs would get over as well, but that is a different story.

I think I experience the same thing. People that didnt know me from high school or earlier tend to think I'm a fairly laid-back person, easy to forgive mistakes, etc. But that's because I found this place to post all my crap, so that I don't have to let it out in the real world...

I tell my boyfriend and he beats them up for me.

My parents are dead. No one else would care enough to bother me.