Tired of people treating me like s**t

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Are people just mean to each other, or am I an easy target and a pushover? Everywhere I go there is at least a few people that seem to enjoy torturing me by treating me bad. Tonight at the soup kitchen a crazy old guy I’m trying to avoid yelled that I was getting a big ass. No one seemed to care. Except an older lady said “yeah well you got a big mouth.” But she was laughing when she said it. The pastor at the other soup kitchen has been intimidating me again and I didn’t even do anything. She’s very judgemental. These are just two examples but it seems like everywhere I go there are bullies. One of these days I’m going to snap at someone who’s treating me bad and they are going to get an earful!! (There needs to be angrier emojis on this site.)

Do you think the other people at the soup kitchen take that "crazy old guy" seriously?

Sometimes, people are just stupid. Try not to let it upset you.

People don’t like dealing with the crazy old guy at all. He’s too much for people most of the time. And people have talked about the pastor saying she’s too strict and picks favourites. These are just some people I hate dealing with currently. I’m glad the other people that have treated me horribly are gone from my life now.

You certainly do not come off as a "pushover" type.

How often does this crazy old guy exhibit his antics?

So yeah I just had to vent. Despite the fact that there’s some controversy about this site, I like being able to come here and rant when there’s no one in my real life to vent to.

That is a good way to look at it. That some people are just stupid.

I have cognitive problems and find it hard to do things. I don’t work and am on disability because of it. The only reason I’m stuck in this town, is because there are a lot of charities here.

That’s a good idea sweetleaf. I have hardly been going to the soup kitchens lately anyway. If I have to go back for food, I’ll just mention it to the volunteers that the crazy old guy is harassing me. I really don’t want to deal with it though. Best to just avoid for now. I might start volunteering for an old folks meetup soon. What I’d really like to volunteer for is something that helps the environment though. The only thing that I found to do like that close to where I live is highway cleanup. But I’ve seen the gross things people throw out their car windows and don’t want to touch that stuff.

You know, maybe I should suck it up and stop being a princess and do highway cleanup anyway. It helps the environment. Everyone should give a damn about the ecosystem. Happy earth day btw. Lol

I am highly sensitive that way (and ASD), as well as my son (NT). As an aside: My (NT) husband and (ASD) daughter don't appear to give a flying F what others think. If I am "too" sensitive, then surely they are "too" insensitive that way. What is this attribute that has people regard or disregard others?

It's interesting to see my 7yo child navigate this: "Mom, I try so hard to be kind and helpful but most people are mean." We've been talking about him finding at least one friend who's kind and helpful like he is. An ally if you will.

I recently had a retail clerk who was nasty and I've been thinking about how I might have handled it. I really like my fantasy option.
* What happened: The retail clerk was impatient, scolded me and moved on to the next person in line. I became choked up and fairly non-functional. The cashier gave me my items for free and a coupon for free items my next visit (I haven't been back)
* My fantasy: "Wow, you are a complete ****. Is there someone else who can help me?"
* Perhaps a more reasonable solution: "I'm sorry you are having a bad day; is there someone else who could help me?"

I would love to tell my sister, my mom, even my dad exactly how I feel. I accepted being the scapegoat in the family. There is the fantasy that life is so great for me and so they can take things out on me. Weird, eh? I am trying to give them a glimpse of what life is like for me while not EXPLODING (in grief, in anger) with it all.

On one hand "they" say being direct is inappropriate, on the other hand "they" say passive (aggressiveness) is also. I'm supposed to modulate and show my emotions. Phooey.

Good luck.