how do you turn off an obsession ?

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Jetfox
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26 Sep 2008, 1:44 am

i know i'm probably talking crazy cause it feels impossible.

i've got one obsession licked, xemnas who was once a crazy obsession now simply lives in my head.

however i started playing world of warcraft that highly addictive game, and i can't seem to break away from it.
my current issue is this.

wrath of the lich king comes out in two months it's an expansion to the game, that will make everything in the game obsolete. till then i am scrambling trying to get armor that is decent, weapons from my blacksmithing skill that will take days to actually make each one, i use axes by the way.
a mount training that is 5000g [gold] not to mention the actual mount that is 200g for this i must quest and sell stuff, but all my greens go to my enchanter now so i got next to nothing to sell, and all my ore to my blacksmithing, so i have to quest and play the auction house for gold, bad thing is i'm a compulsive spender.
i've also got to lvl my alts and their skills, not to mention get a dragon mount.

and i have to do everything including run raids with my guild and help a friend, how i don't mind helping it's just the window of time is closing for me. i can't posibly do everything before wotlk comes out, but i'm tring my damnest to.

ok that's the problem, the issue is i'm losing sleep getting sick, and droping my already low wieght in order to do the impossible. and i know i won't make it, i'm also afraid the the eventual crash when all my stuff i working so hard to get will become worthless.

please i need anything at this point, i'm just not even going to budge on quiting the game. i need the game to keep a balance and i can't do scheduling it makes me uptight.

another issue is my video making has stopped, and it's all because of the game.


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26 Sep 2008, 2:58 am

I played wow for more than 3 years, I was GM of a sunwell guild when I stopped playing about 2 months ago

1. You will not catch up before Wotlk so do not even try
2. The game is supposed to be fun and it is turning into a source of stress for you
3. You are dropping real life interests and it is effecting your health
4. You have the symptoms of a game addiction

You already know the answer to the question that you asked
The answer is stop paying your subscription and uninstall the game and do not buy wotlk.. which will set you on another treadmill of all the things that you need to acquire.



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26 Sep 2008, 8:09 am

You need to tell yourself that it is a game and check your priorities.

You need to turn the game off for at LEAST a week. Do not log on! After a week you should be past the most intense "gotta play" part. After a week allow yourself to log on for no more than (x hours) a day. Set the time, and set a timer. If you can't cut back you will need to go cold turkey like Saffy suggests.

I play Guild wars, and they now actually have a reminder that pops up every hour: You have been playing for x hours, please take a break. They have this reminder now because some kid in Russia? pretty sure Russia DIED because he was so addicted to the game that he refused to eat and sleep and just continued to play. I'm sure you don't want an end like that, your health is already going down hill, you definitely need to cut back/quit. Consider, after the week of not playing not getting/ waiting an extra month for the new expansion.



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26 Sep 2008, 8:37 am

Yeah, I would try and consciously set small, arbitary goals (such as turning it off for fifteen minutes every hour. You know, like they tell you to do on the box), maybe even writing them down, and then letting them creep forward.
Considering the aforementioned MMORPG deaths (I can think of three? One was murder, so it may not count), there's probably a WoW Anonymous by now, but I wouldn't know.
Also, is WoW addiction = an obsession? I feel they're distinct.



26 Sep 2008, 8:56 am

That's why I hate online games. People let themselves get addicted to it and can't literally stop.



You can start giving yourself a time limit on the game every day. Lets say you play the game at (insert time here) and end it at (insert time here). You can give yourself a three hour play time limit.



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26 Sep 2008, 9:19 am

I got my first char up to 70 a month ago. But there i already knew that i wont be able to get 5000g for an epic flying. so i just said im not going to buy one. And choose to go for pvp gear so i didnt need to raid. this took all the presure from away and giving me time to lvl my alt. i got full merciless now so my gear has improved alot. So i just focus on my alt and only play a few times on my main.



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26 Sep 2008, 10:16 am

1.-laugh at yourself and the obsession
2.-give away all your stuff
3.- delete your character
4.- continue living
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26 Sep 2008, 10:19 am

1) get another one

2) find out something horrible about your obsession that completely changes your mind.


Other than that, I can't help


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26 Sep 2008, 10:27 am

any addiction can be strong.

you seem to know that your addicted .

there is therapy or psychological intervention.
as well as pharmacological assistance.

you NEED to see someone.

asking on an internet forum is impulsive stabbing at a problem.

you NEED to get help.


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26 Sep 2008, 11:20 am

I find the best thing is to get a new one but that can be hard.

I do think there is a difference between a video game addiction (although i dislike that term ) and an aspie type obsession although one thing is for me at least when WoW was my obsession , i was never caught up in it in a way that was destructive to my everyday life, and I have seen some people who are NT really become overwhelmed by playing it , in most cases an addiction or at least a mental sort of one without physical parts it seems the activity is replacing something and an aspie obsession is different I think that it sort of is something added to ones life maybe although it can be pretty consuming, at least for me they aren't something that replaces something or fills a void and they usually involve a great deal of curiosity or need to satisfy such. I have seen a few friends become what I see as unhealthily obsessed with online games and , usualy it seems to come from something making them unhappy or unsatisfied with real life the ones who solved it best found other things that were more important they valued and also got happy in life otherwise all I know is either things get really bad and they quit or they keep on doing it and suffer , but at the very least it's not a good thing if it makes you unhappy.

I guess try and find something else you like or involve WoW in your goals in some way, but as for a epic flying mount you don't really need it my 70 never bothered. Although in all truth i mostly played to be with a friend, in ways I found the more I found small things about the game annoying the less I wanted to play.



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26 Sep 2008, 1:19 pm

you guys speak alot of truth maybe i will take breaks if i can, i've already got a flight mount so that should be good enough.

as for gear i've been thinking about just giving up [besides axes].

but i can't quit yet, because i remember playing conquer and feeling crappy everytime dice [my friend on there] said he was moving servers. and that was just moving servers, i haven't talked to him since and it feels horrible. i don't want to do the same to blackicejc.

but i had no idea that wow addiction was different then obsession, and i never heard of any game related deaths.


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26 Sep 2008, 2:21 pm

yes, people have died playing this s*it


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26 Sep 2008, 3:31 pm

Some of them have been gold-farmers though (or whatever the term is; mostly Chinese players who grind for low-level goods to sell en masse on ebay), and there was that (South-Korean?) guy who got cheated out of an e-sword, and since he couldn't get it back (the law's a bit fuzzy on cyber-theft) took matters into his own hands and stabbed the guy who robbed him.

I'd argue that addiction/obsession divide is that, while you can be a total bore about your obsession and spend a lot of time thinking about it, you're not doing it at the expense of your health.



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26 Sep 2008, 6:02 pm

1. Tell everyone your password by "accident"
2. End up with a banned account
3. Deal with it
4. Do something else



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26 Sep 2008, 6:34 pm

Jetfox wrote:

but i can't quit yet, because i remember playing conquer and feeling crappy everytime dice [my friend on there] said he was moving servers. and that was just moving servers, i haven't talked to him since and it feels horrible. i don't want to do the same to blackicejc.


This is just an excuse, stay in touch with people that mean something to you via Messenger. When a game starts effecting your health, you have to have a good hard look at what you are doing. If you are raiding you are not going to be taking regular breaks, and if you are taking regular breaks during a raid .. you are going to be kicked from your guild. Seriously .. just move on, if you are unable to play causally .. and to me it sounds like you can't.



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26 Sep 2008, 7:15 pm

yes i always make excuses for things i like, but then again i can't play any game casually.

so i'm stuck like this, that means.


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