I am scared of people.

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Particulary when it's time to meet new people (Mum's friends, associates, classmates). I don't know what to say (maybe because they are NT's and don't have any obssesions at all) and feel confused. So I just stand and look down. There are some excerpts like one day I've meet a boy from Internet, but he was an ElectroGoth , and I'm interested in quite similar, like him.

How can I solve this problem?

P.S. I am 15-years old.
P.S.2 I don't know exactly if I have autism, I've never been to doctors. But I have many signs of it.

That sounds like social phobia. Whether you have AS or not can sort of be approached separately, or at least I would advise you do so initially.

The best option is Cognative Behavioural Therapy.

It might also be worth pursuing diagnosis for autism as, although CBT can be very effective, people with autism spectrum disorders generally need CBT that is designed specifically for people with autism, as opposed to 'standard' CBT for neuro-typical people.

Perhaps it would be an idea to find out whether you are aspie / autie or NT first, and then find a form of therapy that is right for you.

CBT courses can be applied to anything. Except: a. when a problem cannot be easily defined or identified. b. the necessary motivation is not there. If either are true, you might want to try different therapies and treatments first.

So what I mean by defined is like "I fear people" rather than "I feel odd sometimes".

But really you have to apply it to you, that is the only way it will work.

Actually I agree with girl7000. Except, I never really did a course I learnt from a book and applied it so it would work for me. Only gradually and still use it. Even NTs who pay some CBT therapist, that person is only there some of the time and it doesn't mean they are going to come up with the best solutions for them.

I would recommend reading Gillian Butler books. Just for the concept take the examples and structure with a grain of salt.

Thanks for the answers, I needed them a lot.

There is another problem. Autism in my small country has been known very early (since 1994 approximately) and medics may not be aware of it. I know one event then one girl, who was 18, had all autistic lineament, many obssesions, high IQ and doctors didn't determine she had AS. They said that she has depression, social anxiety etc. Though these diseases are the results of autism I fear that it will be to me too.

I don't know if Cognative Behavioural Therapy is being applied in my nation.

However, I suppose I should go to the doctors and they will tell me what's wrong with me.

Don't worry you have nothing to be scared of with people especially NTs they are perfectly human you just think differently but anyhow even Nts have obsessions as well. It's perfectly normal

good luck with that, most of the times i like being by myself, but really get annoyed if i have to walk behind someone and they look back like "wtf?"

I get most uncomfortable around people I don't know. I don't know what to say to them either. Sounds like social anxiety.

For me it was a result of not knowing how relating to people, doing my own thing and been bullied because of it.

But my cognitive problems and overload of information made want to spend more time on my own, so I was not clued up in general.

I have SA friends who are not AS. They mostly had problems from teen years. When I was a young child I was 'self sufficient' in play, didn't really follow instructions, and would wander off. But my SA came later I think.

What you're trying to say is that I could have social anxiety/sociophobia but not AS? And also I could have both of them at the same time?