How do you feel when you see a really tasty man?

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Attraction comes in many forms. We're often unable to explain why we're attracted to somebody (the chemistry you mentioned).

When I said "I pay attention to physical appearance", I didn't mean that he has to be conventionally hot or something like that. Quite the contrary; most of the "hot men" (like popular actors, etc.) do nothing for me. I just don't get the appeal.

Many men I found attractive weren't seen as attractive by many other girls, which is fine.

Physically, I am attracted to beautiful hair. Preferably dark and longish and messy. It's the first thing I notice on a man. Not to say that I automatically see a man with a receding hairline as ugly, but hair is what I notice first.

I also like beautiful, expressive eyes. Preferably dark, but it's not important. Blue and green (especially green) eyes can be very beautiful.

Other than that, I don't care/notice much. I don't care about a man's height. I don't care about his body shape. I was often attracted to skinny boys or the chubby ones. I must admit I'm not crazy about the muscular men, though, but I don't pay that much attention to that. I don't really care about his clothes (though I prefer casual and slightly messy).

I too love longish hair on a man, preferably dark, although I love beautiful blue or green eyes rather than brown. But they don't have to possess those traits as you say.

*shrug*

I'm gay but I feel this for women.

Lots of Aspies are asexual but many aren't. It's just attraction.

I am more attracted to personality too. I like sweet,sensitive,creative,intelligent guys that can have a deep conversation.
If I look at appearance I look at their eyes.

I don't really get attracted to people very quickly because I have to be around their personality a bit first, I'm very pansexual. As soon as someone does or says something though that makes me all warm and drippy inside....I become pretty stupid. I'm really good at talking about sex and etc because when I finally did make friends, I get along with men much better. However, when it comes to anything like this...I basically have the mind of a perverted male trapped inside the body of a sexually available young woman. Unfortunately, I tend to "imprint" upon a person and then pursue them in my very socially unacceptable understanding of relationships...which...usually comes across as highly sexualized and demanding. Although...I'm only ever interested in serious relationships with certain people...but with the way I approach things...you'd think I was really needy for a good lay. *blushes* I am SO BAD at any type of relationship communication.

Id have to agree with this statement though, I feel the dominating attitude has a tendency to scare lots of men. Though honestly the men scared by a strong minded and confident women would probably not be too satisfying intellectually or sexually. I litterally start visualizing sexual acts with hot men in my head when I see them or talk to them. Sometimes it can be quite distracting. For example... hot boss, must remain professional but all I'm seeing while nodding my head and "paying attention" is a quick romp on some dirty peice of shop equipment. Its hard to contain and even harder to explain when you have a significant other who wants to know your thoughts. It also makes me feel like a bit of a hypocritical creap because I'm totally objectifying these men in real time while they generally try to remain pc about their interaction with me. Its odd.

I get physically attracted less often than NTs. Out of face-to-face meetings with guys, maybe once every few years. I don't get out much, and I normally don't bother looking.

It does happen, but I would almost never act upon it. Too shy and I don't want casual relationships. The odds we would have anything in common are too low. I can dream, but I have hardly any hope of finding someone, let alone one I found physically attractive.

I do see beautiful men and comment on them but nothing more. But when there is a combination of things, it is such a rush. It has only happened once so far and with someone not compatible of course, but that didn't keep me from acting all stupid and flirty. Good thing they did not live close by because I definitely would have considered jumping them at any given chance.

Nothing really. I'm not Asexual but I'm pretty darn close.