do you ever feel asexual?

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Sometimes when I think about sex I think it is the most disgusting thing in the world and never want to do it, but I'm not asexual.

I've felt this way too.

Sex was always repulsive to me.

Who needs sticking body parts together?

But I wonder if other things are as exiting to me, as sex is to normal people?

This is a controversial subject, but I think it is because of privacy and possible embarrassment. I will try to answer as clearly as possible.

I used to have urges of physical sexual interest in males before menopause. But I really had no desire for a real relationship. I have a hunch most other males realized this and so the only relationships I have had were ones which yielded children. I engaged in self gratification if I ever needed any physical relief. Now that I have passed through the transition period I term post menopausal stage, I have had no further urges. This makes me feel a whole lot better.

I hope the other women in this forum and indeed on this website are satisfied and comfortable with their current situations.

I just watched a YouTube rerun of the Montel show on asexuality where several asexual couples came to talk and Montel acted like they were freaks. At the end he had some sex therapist insist that they should be going to the doctor because asexuality could be a symptom of Aspergers even if they had no other symptoms! Didn't think this was accurate but made me wonder if this was leading to any false diagnoses...

I feel asexual in an odd way. I get turned on really easily reading sexual descriptions in like fanfiction or whatever, or seeing pornographic images, and the idea of sex interests me. However, I am never attracted to anyone in person. Male or female. It's just not there. It's very odd - I feel literally nothing, and I've never been kissed because I don't desire it. I've never had a crush. The idea of being that close and intimate with someone terrifies me, and when I think about the actual aspects of kissing or whatever, it grosses me out. I just think of all the germs and whatever, lol, and I'm not a huge germ freak. But my mouth would be involved! It's very odd because I consider myself a sexual person because I'm physically capable of experiencing arousal, but I have never had a desire to be intimately involved with a single person that I've met.

I am asexual.

Or at least really repressed and schizoid about it.

I'm not asexual, but I can't see myself engaging in sex anytime soon. Too messy. Too awkward.

While sex in theory is a beautiful thing when shared between two people very much in love(and that's the ONLY way I think sex should be in my opinion), I feel sickened at the very thought of being pressed to a sweaty body while the part a man uses to pee out of is thrust repeatedly into my girly parts.

Still a virgin and glad to be so, since these days people throw it away too easily.

I'm asexual.

That's a weird question, too. That's like asking if you feel gay sometimes. If you answer yes, then guess what, you're gay. Or bi.

Possibly so. Now, the idea of having a husband and someday a family is appealing, the whole sex thing...not so sure about that part. I can at least say that I have never looked at a man, even when I found him aesthetically good-looking AND liked him as a person, and felt any sort of physical attraction in that sense. Maybe that'll change someday if I find the right man...or maybe not. I'm really not sure.

In high school maybe. These days though I can't go 5 minutes without b*tching that I ain't getting something.

You can be asexual and still be married and have children. Asexuals a lot of time marry other asexuals if they want romance in their life, but occasionally asexuals may marry sexuals and it work out. Asexuals just lack any sexual attraction to men or women. Doesn't mean you can't be romantic in other kind of ways and bear children. No one said you had to enjoy the process of getting pregnant.

Not at all asexual...

~Kate

I never feel asexual but sometimes I wish I did.

Is one "supposed" to look at men and experience a physical reaction just from the visual stimulus, or proximity without even touching?

Also, does being asexual rule out a sexual orientation? Or does a sexual orientation by definition include experiencing strong sexual attraction? If you know you prefer men, but don't feel much if any sexual response when looking at them (aesthetically and personality-wise you prefer them and are definitely more interested than with women), does that make you asexual, or just heterosexual without a lot of desire?

I'm just trying to understand the definition here--sorry if I sound obtuse.

I don't know. I just know my own reaction. I don't experience sexual attraction to either gender, so I don't know what one is supposed or not supposed to do. I only know what I am supposed to do... or not do in my case.

Asexuality is an orientation. In asexuality, there are a lot of grey areas. There is heteroasexual, biasexual and homoasexual... which is kinda confusing to people who don't understand the realms of asexuality. What you are describing, with the whole aesthetic/personality attraction without sexual attraction to a male, would make you a heteroasexual.

No need to apologise. I'm thrilled to educate anyone on asexuality.

For the others posting above how it would be nice to be asexual, it isn't. Being told that "you don't exist" from your family, friends, society in general and the medical community constantly and always having people challenge your very way of being is not exactly a bowl of cherries. Being told that one aspect of the very core of your being is "just a phase" is not fun. It hurts after awhile, especially when family and friends just dismiss you. Not wanting sex is pleasant, at least I think so, but there is a whole other side to being an asexual that I don't think people realise.