Do you feel that people are laughing at you?

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I feel this all the time, because I often come out with such stupid things, and I'm always feeling awkward all the time.

Because I find it extremely hard to stick up for myself, I feel that people just laugh at me. I feel that people rely on my good nature, and just think, ''oh, we will ask her to do it - she won't mind'', and then they just think that I will put up with it. I've left my volunteer job at a charity shop because of this. I know I'm an Aspie, but I'm good with picking up signs of how people think of me. It's like I've told them dozens of times that I find it difficult to go on the till (because of my frightingly poor interaction with customers what will never change), and they still ask me to go on the till, but don't ask anyone else. And they've all said that they don't like going on the till either, but it's all right for them because they're NTs, and admittedly all NTs have that skill in them with dealing with customers, even if they don't like it. And the charity shop managers know that my social skills aren't great with customers, but they never listen to me. And I know why - it's because they think I'm stupid enough to do these things, and they probably don't want me working up there with them, and so chuck me down on the till on my own, and it's so daunting. Just think - an Aspie, alone on a till, with the whole responsibility of all the customers, for hours, without having a break from having to rush up and down sorting deanding customers out, and interacting non-stop. You would have thought this would have improved my customer service skills, but it hasn't. It's made me feel worse, because I feel that the customers laugh at me too, being that I have this blank unconfident expression on my face, and so they think they can take advantage of that and haggle their way out of things in the shop.

Anyway, that's my little rant where I feel that people are just taking advantage of my kind nature and are just laughing their head off. Anyone else feel the same?

I've felt taken advantage of in a household I used to live in (with seven other people) in which other members of the household were routinely treated with different standards than I was. I've also run into it on jobs. I think the most egregious situation I can recall was calling my employer to tell him I had an abscess in my mouth and needed to make an emergency trip to the dentist, and he said "No, you have to work." I guess the next most was when I called said employer to tell him that I was snowed in some 30 miles from work and could not possibly get to work in any reasonable amount of time, and he said "No, you have to work." So I had to move heaven and earth to get to work two hours late only to find that he had decided to close the shop anyway.

I don't even want to get into what happened with my ex, but I definitely felt there was a lot of taking advantage of my naivete in that relationship.

I couldn't guess whether or not they were laughing at me, though.

Yeah I have had simular experiances....at a couple jobs and just in general with my family. I am trying to become more assertive so I can make it clear I won't put up with that kind of stuff, I am not really making much progress.

@Joe90: The first sentence I relate to very much because I used to do that all the time up until I was 16 or so. Then I learned to keep my mouth shut. It really sucks because now I'm in college and I don't really talk to anyone because I'm so afraid of being rejected and laughed at.

If I hear laughter I assume its about me the same thing with whispering I think they are plotting against me.

Yes, all the time. One of my teachers at college usually laughs a lot though so I don't know if he's laughing at me or not.

He says: I'm not laughing at you.

I wish I had asked, "Then what ARE you laughing at then?.."

No, but in public I sometimes feel like people are whispering about me or something. I don't know why, but I get paranoid about it sometimes.

I get that too.

I probably was doing something stupid or irregular for most people because all of a sudden I could have sworn I heard one of my teachers whisper "She has Autism" in someones ear.
I don't usually tell people I have ASD, but I make it obvious.

Anyways, so much for "not sharing student personal information" even if you found out yourself, I'm still disappointed in you for sharing it. >_<

He probably felt that as long as he didn't say my name, it isn't considered Gossip.

I had a habit. Whenever my husband was mad I would always ask him if he was mad at me. If the reason he was angry wasn't obvious, I just assumed i had said done or not done something.

He basically said 'The world doesn't revolve around you. Everytime I'm angry, it's not about you." I was hurt because I didn't assume the world revolved around me - I simply didn't understand why he was angry and applied the logical - I was the only 'reason' in the room. But I did work at applying that concept to everything; people laughing, or making weird faces, or gesturing in my general direction. I just realized I'm not important enough to any of these people for them to waste their energy on reacting to me alone. I'm not a special flower, as the husband likes to say. That has sort of worked negatively in reverse though. Now, unless someone specifically says my name, I pay them no mind.

Getting a paid job frightens me, because I know that people laugh at me, and I really hate the thought of another group of people knowing me and seeing how unconfident I am (even if I try not to be), and then laughing at me. Because I am more likely to attract bullies (especially from other young girls), I am terrified of ending up somewhere where people are going to be picking on me. I was job hunting today, and I walked into a shop to give in my CV (which is very confident of me), and I noticed the 2 girls at the till who I gave my CV to were looking at me funny, and one of them were laughing slightly, and it wasn't just a friendly look. I may be an Aspie, but I know that offensive look when I see it. It was that sniggering look. I really feel like walking back in there, and saying this: ''I came in and gave you a CV the other day, and I would like to have it back because I don't like the way you looked at me and made me feel very uncomfortable.'' But I won't do it, since I suppose it's ''socially unnacceptable'', even though it's OK for them to make me feel small.

It's not as though I don't try, because I do. I get the bus every day, make myself face my fear (which is crowded places), I worked at a charity shop vollunteering, now I'm looking for another one. I thought I was quite confident, but I'm not. I can't be, if people can't f*****g stop looking at me. Why don't people just f*****g grow up and stop looking at me like I'm a f*****g piece of s**t on the ground?! !! Or is it too hard for them?! I walked past a mirror and I looked normal - nothing worth laughing about at all. I blend in OK. I just look around shops with a friend, which is what most others do, and is considered ordinary. I don't know what some people's f*****g problem is. I think I just grow another head when I go out. Or I suddenly glow, catching people's eye. Wish I could f*****g die and get out of this world. Don't know why I was ever born with this f*****g c*****g Autism - I f*****g HATE IT I HATE IT I HATE IT f**k AUTISM!! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! f**k AUTISM RIGHT TO HELL!! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !! !