I'm scared I'll act weird around Jewish people

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I have been interested in foreign food, comparative religion, import/export business, and it has led me to unusual, social situations. The best advice I can give you is that different people will have different responses, to being asked about their culture, on a case-by-case basis, based on their own personal experiences -- particularly in examples of integration, when someone might be in a state of identity crisis. A pale white, among the darkest Mexicans. A half-Phillipino with a cowboy hat. The kind of people, who, situationally, seem to be the odd men out, were, by far, the most sensitive.

I have been a conspicuous presence in the 'safe' places of other ethnic groups and offended them, on occasion. (Typically, mildy.) It's a legitimate concern.

Probably based on a rumor, I have gained some notoriety at a school, which I attended. Many people asked about my identity, including self-identified Jews. I was not prepared with an answer, at the time. I neither thought it would be a good thing, nor bad. This only fueled the speculation.

If the question seems to be rude, send me a PM. If I am capable, I will answer, frankly, and to the best of my ability, without embarrassing you. I do not claim to know everything, nor to speak on behalf of all people, but I had eventually invested a considerable effort into this line of discussion.

What is the first part you had difficulty with.

I have thoroughly investigated my own Jewish roots and may be able to answer questions about Jews and Judaism.

I am not being judgmental.

Noone else will have the opportunity to be judgmental.

Or, if you prefer to ask questions, openly, I will answer as respectfully as possible.

Are you acting weird around Jewish people because you are having anti-Semitic thoughts?

The opposite, I think. S/he's fascinated with Judaism, and probably afraid that s/he will act weird in the way that a person who meets a favorite famous actor might act weird, looking stupid or embarrassing the other person.

Maybe you'd better just meet some Jewish people and get to know them, so it will get to be familiar and not so intimidating anymore, and you'll stop worrying about it. They are regular people--by that, I mean that most things about them have to do with who they are rather than with them being Jewish--and you would probably find it reassuring to see that normalcy about them. That way when you think of "Jewish" you can think of those regular people that you've met, instead of the many things you've learned that are different about them.